My parents have been living with me, my fiance, and my 9 year old disabled son for almost 3 months now. They are both working, but they can't make enough money to get their own place. They were in a place for the past 12 years, and they were having problems paying $400 a month. My dad drives a truck, and my mom is a deli manager at Food Lion. So, they don't make too much money. But, we only live in a 2 bedroom apartment. They have been sleeping on my couches. And on the weekends my little brother is here also. He's 16 and still in school, but he doesn't want to change schools cuz he's been @ this school since he's been going to school. So, they drive about an hour from my house to pick him up on the weekends and back another hour on Sunday. I can't tell them they gotta go, cuz they have nowhere else to go. But, I also don't want to get in trouble with my landlord. And it's kinda hard living 6 people in a 2 bedroom apartment. I don't know what to do! Can anyone give me some advise?
2007-01-17 06:45:33 · 10 answers · asked by Kristin K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh, and I don't have the money to help them. I get a disability check for my son with cerebral palsy every month. I haven't been able to work since he was about 2.
2007-01-17 06:46:36 · update #1
I'm 22, and I manage to support myself all on my own. I am positive your parents can do this with proper motivation. sometimes it means taking on a second job. but living 6 ppl in a 2 bedroom apartment is not acceptable. Give them a deadline, tell them you love them and ask them to save money while they are living with you. Then its time to move on.
2007-01-17 06:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by coniferc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your foot down and tell your parents that you have given them ample time to save money for there own place and that they need to move on. I'm sure you love your parents and all but they are taking advantage of you and your home. They make more than enough to be able to afford $400 a month to rent a small apartment themselves. There is even government housing that they can look into renting or if your state has it a Section 8 program where they will only have to pay a percentage of the rent. You need to tell your parents that you are in fear of losing your own roof over your head if you continue to let them stay there. You need to really put your foot down, two months is a long enough time.
2007-01-21 04:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are drawing disability for your son, and not working then you are not making much at all. If he drives a truck and she works a deli, then they are probably making more money than you.
This is tough love in reverse. They need to go and apply for government housing or get government help sense they have a young person still at home. In the mean time there are places out there that will rent for less you just have to look for them. You need to let your parents know that it is time for them to look for better jobs and a home so that you can get them out of the home, this is not good for any of you.
I hate to say this, but there is some serious issues here that really need to be addressed, you cannot go on supporting them, and they may get mad at you for saying so, but you just need to let them know they need to try a little harder to get on their on two feet.
2007-01-17 13:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let your parents know that your you can get into trouble with your landlord or even thrown out on the streets because of this current living situation. Since your parents are working, ask them to put aside 10-20% of their paychecks in order to save up money. Once they keep up with this method, your parents could either continue putting their money aside, put the money on a bank CD to while gaining interest rates, or do both. Let them know that by saving up their money like this, they would be able to rent an apartment and buy a house later on.
2007-01-17 07:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Forever♥Aries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that you helped your parents out in their time of need, but they are taking advantage of your kindness. Parents are supposed be there for their children, not the other way around- at least not until they are geriatric patients. There are resources out there for low-income families to help them find housing, jobs, etc. If they aren't making enough money as they claim- they may be eligble for benefits that can help them find a place, get food, and fet them on their feet and out of your home. The local DHS (Department of Human Services) Office can help with that. Also, who is your brother living with? If they are not caring for him, who is? Tell your parents you cannot afford to help them any longer and it is not a healthy environment for your family to have so many people in your home. You cannot jeopardize your own housing stability by allowing them to continue to stay. Give them a timeline in which to move out- 2 weeks, one month- whatever you feel comfortable with. AND STICK TO IT. By allowing them to stay, you are enableing them. It is no different than if you were living with them for an extended period of time in their small apartment and they felt you were adult enough to take care of yourself. It will be hard- but you have your own family to think about now. Good luck
2007-01-17 07:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This makes no sense at all to me. You mean to tell me that two adults cannot afford $400/month? There is more to this story. So after 12years they can't afford it?! Bulls#$%. Give them a deadline and explain to them that the landlord had complaints. Can they get an apt there? And where does your brother live? What state is this anyway?
Do what you have to do to get them out. Sounds like they want to save their money. If she is a manager, she makes more than $7.00/hr. If he drives truck he makes more than that.
Its more to your parents than the details you have provided
2007-01-17 06:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to your land lord and talk with him maybe he has something bigger .Tell him what is going on because you would not want to be sneaking around on the land lord as he will find out.You are a good person for taking in your parents.Just remember we all need family and if they are helping out that is great.Go and talk .Just remember it takes alot of love to love and care and you are one in a million and i am sure one day your parents will be there to help you out too.
2007-01-17 07:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by Donna Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's nice that you are letting your parents live with you. I think your parents are taking advantage of your hospitality. Tell them to save and get a place of their own. They are adults!
2007-01-17 07:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by razberryberet28 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone pool their money and buy a big house. Or, kick them out.
2007-01-17 06:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thy are using you babe.!!!
the answer from "KIM" is right on!!! i could not say it any better my self.
2007-01-17 09:14:56 · answer #10 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋