My brother wants to come live with me during his last year of college and my husband doesn't think it is a good idea. He is kind of wild, and we have a baby. What would you do??
2007-01-17 06:44:36 · 7 answers · asked by jayvers05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If my husband was dead set against it, probably not. Your house is only big enough for one family, if you get my drift. Don't let it ruin your relationship. If he is wild and you have a baby - No way.
2007-01-17 07:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by rachel_ksr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had family live with me for a few months it is very hard you have to keep your cool if you don't want to ruin the relationship. If he is wild you should make a list of rules and let him read them if he accepts let him know not following your rules will get him thrown out. I feel anyone should help family when they can but not to the point of destroying your own life so if your husband is against it he might already know he will not be able to get along with your brother. But let him know you would do it if it was his family member that might make him see the situation through your eyes.
2007-01-17 07:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by puzzled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss all the pros and cons with your husband. Invite your brother for part 2 of the conversation. Say what your concerns are without holding back. What would be the agreements if he stayed, such as expenses, responsibilities, expectations, norms for living in your household (cleanliness, noise), sharing domestic chores (cleaning, shopping, cooking)?
You and your husband should come to a mutual decision. If your husband is still opposed, then it's best you say no. Saying no is hard, but saying no after you said yes is a lot harder.
2007-01-17 06:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by joanmazza 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am going through that situation right now with my 17 year old sister she is living with me and my family,she is a good girl she works and goes to school but my husband is kind of tired now he says he is ready for his space and privacy now,but my mom just found her apartment and can't move in for another few weeks,but it has brought a lot of conflict in my house since she has been here with us,my husband will stay in the bedroom,he says to give her space,but at the same time he feels that he has no chose,so i would say don't do it,let him stay where he has been all this time he has been in collage,if you care for your husband don't do it,it will only bring conflict that you don't need or want in to your home.
2007-01-17 07:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by sassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-01 07:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have a family to care for he should get his own place.
2007-01-17 13:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE IS WILD AND YOU HAVE A BABY....I WOULD SAY NO. BUT THEN AGAIN I TOOK IN MY BABY NEICE [AGE 6] WHEN MY SISTER HAD TO GO TO PRISON AND WOULD DO IT AGAIN IN A HEARTBEAT.
2007-01-17 07:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by baptism_by_fire_2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋