Sometimes he really treats me like dirt and just when I get the nerve to end it, he turns on the charm again. I have been in 2 failed marriages, and I am sure my self esteem is contributing to this. I pay all the bills. He does not contribute, so financial security does not contribute to him being around. Someone please give me some advice!
2007-01-17 06:40:51 · 19 answers · asked by Lucy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont own the house, but I have 10 months left on the lease (In my name - of course)
2007-01-17 07:25:37 · update #1
Marry him. hasn't failed you yet.
2007-01-17 06:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by detroit al 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Low self-esteem and no self-respect for yourself will cause you to always be in a bad relationship. This guy is just using you for a free ride and you are allowing it. He can't do anymore than you allow him to do. You know his character and still just because he tells you that he will straighten up and do right or even use those 3 famous words: I LOVE YOU. No offense but you will always be treated this way if you don't stand up for yourself and gain some self-confidence. You don't have to even say a word to this jerk just leave him high and dry!!!! cause it just seems that when you try to say GOOD-BYE you fall for his trap everytime. Stop playing the fool, you are better than that and God doesn't want you with any junk so why do you continue to stay with junk? Love yourself and others will love you. Pray for a man who is worth of your love and who deserves your love. Try being single for a while and just pray and ask God to send you a God Fearing Man and not someone that you want but someone you need.
2007-01-17 14:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in all honesty there is no easy way to end a relationship that has been going on for so long the last 2 year relationshio that i had ended about 6 months ago, we both stopped talking completely and started seeing other people about a week ago i talked to her again for the first time and i felt all of the emotions flow back into me, i could also tell by her voice that she felt the same way even though we both denied it thnking it would be better not pirsue anything. as for the best way.... you can never go wrong with just telling him way you think the realtionship should end.
2007-01-17 14:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by musstoffa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since he sweet talks you into not dumping him every time you try to, you should just physically leave him. Don't talk to him, just move out. I don't know what your living situation is, but I would just pack my stuff and leave him without him knowing. that way he won't be able to talk you into staying. After you move out, just stop talking to him all together. Have a friend pick up the rest of your stuff later. If you own the house, you can evict him easily. well good luck... if I knew what your living situation was I could give better advice.
2007-01-17 15:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by Atousa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he's going to turn on the charm when you try to end it. You are paying all the bills and working while his lazy *** doesn't have to do anything. You need to talk to a counselor or psychiatrist and figure out why you are choosing to be in unhealthy relationships. You sound co-dependent. Good news is, you can change this. You also need to stand firm and tell this guy you don't want to be in this unhealthy relationship. No matter how charming he is, stick to your decision and get rid of him. Good luck!
2007-01-17 14:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The roots of low self esteem are long and deep and hard to kill.You have to learn to be okay by yourself and comfortable in your own skin before you will attract healthy people(so I've been told)If you keep looking outside yourself for someone to "complete you",you will always find heartache.It's not called "rising" in love,is it?Insist on physical separation and find the resolve to maintain physical separation.Avoid new relationships until you have found equilibrium in being alone.
2007-01-17 15:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by kevin k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself if he treats you good more than he treats you like dirt. If your answer is that he treats you bad more times then you should dump him. Sounds like that man found himself a money pit. You allow him to treat you like crap and still pay all the bills. Kick him to the curb and don't settle for anyone unless he is the right one. You are the one in control. Don't allow anyone to take advantage of you. Good luck.
2007-01-17 14:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest tell him how you feel. Be strong. When he starts putting on the charm, keep reminding yourself of the bad times.
Then when you are single, can I suggest some counseling. You have low self-esteem and 2 failed marriges. It's something to look at deeper.
2007-01-17 14:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Emily ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unless you are looking for another failed marriage I would say get the F away from him! You deserve someone to take care of you, not you taking care of him! Kick his a** to the curb! I know its easier said then done so good luck!
2007-01-17 14:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello-leave him!
Stay single,enjoy life you rushed thinngs too fast and failed 2 marriages.
You need self confidence,which is a big turn-on for men.
He just needs a bedbuddy I think.he is bored and you guys just go with the flow and nothing makes sense.
Move to Europe-Germany!
2007-01-17 14:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by willywonka172 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am going to just come out and say it... Do you really need help doing this? You can't stand up for yourself? If this is the case...the best answer is right under your nose... So, here it is again for you because it appears to me that you have missed it:
MARRY HIM...
(I apologize to the person who already said it)
2007-01-21 02:32:17 · answer #11 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋