Ok, when my boyfriend and I were first together, we used to fu*k like rabbits. Well, we've been together for almost 3 years and 9 times out of 10 Iam the one initiating the sex. He would be satisfied with doing it once a month. His excuse is always "im tired, i need to shower, i just got out of work bla bla bla." This isn't normal to me and I know for a fact he's not cheating on me because we live together and we're ALWAYS together so...I dont know what is...Help please?
2007-01-17 06:38:52 · 7 answers · asked by s_devlin87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guys want something when they think they can't have it. He can have you whenever he wants, so he's not too crazy about it anymore. Make yourself less available... don't throw yourself at him, and let him chase you again like he did when you first started dating. Guys like to chase women even if you have been together for a long time. Or he could be masturbating without you knowing. If the chasing doesn't work, I would ask him about the latter.
2007-01-17 07:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by Atousa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He very well could be tired...has his job changed lately? Has his appearance changed in anyway (which may cause him to be disgusted by himself) and in contrast, as your appearance changed in some way? Maybe you two need a break from each other as you say you are always together - absence does make the heart grow fonder and the loins grow hotter. If nothing else, maybe you need to face facts that the 'spark' is gone. I was with my ex for 10 1/2 years...and my sex drive was much stronger than his (we're talking like maybe once every 6 weeks)...it got even worse when we lived together. For a while I thought he was gay, but then realized that I was too strong willed for us to even be together (control freak and strong willed don't work out).
2007-01-17 07:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens. As couples are together longer inevitably one of them will want sex less then the other. There is probably not a whole lot that can be done to get him to want it more except try to seduce him. Or maybe try going on a vacation together and try to jump start your sex life.
2007-01-17 06:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by Steveo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps his drive does not match yours. Perhaps he actually IS tired. No one here can possibly know for sure. It is nice that you are the initiator but it is not unreasonable to expect him to initiate some of the time.
Good Luck!
2007-01-17 06:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by I know for sure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe yall should get married and stop havin sex then im sure the sex would be a lot better once yall are married hope this helps and not tryin to be sarcatic but serious
god bless
2007-01-17 06:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi S 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow..im surprised its not the other way around...wear something sexy..try to act like u dont want dont hint let him do it...dont chase him let him chase u
2007-01-17 06:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ask him wen he feel horney
2007-01-17 07:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by Latesha A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋