-K- I have a friend, a single mom of three, 11, 6, and 3. The 11 and 3yr old are both girls and great kids, no problems what sooooooooo ever, but the bot whos 6, makes up for all the trouble his sisters don't do, or get into. He is completely rude to his mother,therefore any adult around the home, always thrashing the house, will be clean and give him 10min without being on him like a wart, yells and screams at his mom, when she tries to disapline him, she is about 100pounds he his around 65 so she can't spank him, without a major fight, and there is no father figure around due to his getting locked up. Shes a complete mess and don't know what to do or how to make him behave, so what I've been noticing is that shes been taking it all out on the 11yr for everything her brother does, and with the mother can't control him who is the 11yr sister suppose to? Lost for anwsers any advise?
2007-01-17 06:29:11 · 7 answers · asked by D lux 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
SHE NEEDS TO TALK TO THE SCHOOL COUNSELOR AND HAVE THEM HELP. HE MAYBE ACTING OUT BECAUSE HIS DAD ISN'T AROUND. THEY ALL NEED TO SIT DOWN AND TALK ABOUT EVERYTHING AND SET RULES FOR EVERYONE.THE BOY NEEDS TO HAVE SOME COUNSELING BY HIMSELF AND WITH THE REST OF THE FAMILY BUT FIRST THE MOTHER NEEDS TO TALK TO THE SCHOOL COUNSELOR AND HE/SHE CAN HELP WITH THE CHILD AND GIVE NAMES OF SOME COUNSELING PLACES THAT CAN HELP. I WISH THEM BEST OF LUCK!
2007-01-17 06:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the boy is acting out as a result of not having his dad around. He's taking it out on his mom. She should try to join a local group for single moms to get support and find out what other single moms do. If she doesn't try to get a grip on this now it'll spin completely out of control in the next few years. She could also try signing him up for a Big Brother through Big Brother/ Big Sister so he has a strong, solid male role model to talk with.
2007-01-17 14:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have a major confusion with the words "who" and "what".
Anyway.
The parent is as fault. Just because a child is diffcult and strong willed doesnt mean that it needs less parenting. he acts this way because he hasnt been consistantly taught how to act, expected to act that way, and the reliably and consistantly punished when he doesnt act right.
She started this issue when he was small, and it is quickly growing out of hand.
being that he's 6 and 65 pounds it sounds like he is well over weight too, and probably needs to be on a proper diet, since poor diet can effect a childs chemicals and thus their behavior.
Just because he throws a major fight when she's trying to punish him doesnt mean she gives up.
Its overwhelming and much to handle, and it sounds like having the help of a good friend who's also a good mom, or a close relative would be useful for her, and even more importantly, the child.
2007-01-17 14:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
its not the 11 year olds problem; the mother is the parent and she needs to act like one. there are several things that you can do to a child that is out of control that is not illegal or considered abuse. first you can spank the child is acting out because she gives him the impression that it is okay to do so. rather she is 100 lbs. or 500 lbs. she is the parent and she is smarter and stronger. the child needs discipline. another thing that is legal though it sounds mean works great. you can restrain your child with straps like they use in nursing homes for the elderly (ratchet straps) when the child is out of control you can strap the child down until they calm down. i would suggest just leaving them on the bed so whenever he is acting out all you have to do is make it to the bed with the child
2007-01-17 15:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she needs "SuperNanny" Jo Frost! She works wonders! Watch the show, you can learn great discipline rules for your children. Every Monday night she is on. Never miss an episode. I have 2 boys, 5 & 8, my husband works evenings, so it is all me front the time the bus drops them off until they go to sleep.
2007-01-18 22:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by roadbound07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG - you just described my son at 6yrs old. Overnight, he would start telling me to F... off and swing at me. I spanked, grounded, etc, nothing worked. I ended up taking him to see a child psychologist and guess what --- he blamed himself for our divorce! Never did find out 'why' he blamed himself, but he did. Even though it is not logical - he might blame himself for his dad 'leaving'. It does NOT need to make sense to you - just the child.
2007-01-17 14:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to spell and use proper Grammar
2007-01-17 14:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Brown-Eyed-Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋