Could someone be picking on my baby at school? (ps baby is 4)?

Question

He has a receptive language delay, so he doesnt communicate with us like other 4 yr olds, I ask him questions, like "did something happen at school?" "what did your friends say to you today?" he doesnt act like anything happend, but its hard to know for sure, just within the last couple of days, he's had fits, he sais he doesnt want to go to school, he wants to stay home. I have asked the teacher, she doesnt know of anything happening at school, do you think he could be being bullied? do you think other kids may be picking on his language delay? what are some other reasons why a child would stop wanting to go to school? do you think it could be the teacher even? how do I get to the bottom of this? is there any way I could sort of spy? Any advise would be appreciated.. he's been going and loving it since september..

he is in speech therapy, has been for months..

Answer 1

Children at this age often don't know how to express themselves through words (language delay or not, most can't do it).

My suggestion (and this is just a suggestion, not a for sure problem solver) would be to give him some paper and crayons and set him down at the kitchen table. Ask him "Could you draw me a picture of school?" Maybe he could draw a picture of himself at school and then you could point to things and ask him to explain it for you. If someone is bullying him, he might draw that and when you ask "Who's that?" he might reply saying that person is "mean", "bad", etc.

If that doesn't help, go back to the school and talk to them. Go to the principle and ask if anything is going on. And if they don't mind, maybe stay for the day (or half a day depending on your schedule) to observe what's going on.

Answer 2

ask the teacher if anyone else in class has been acting this way. My son was begging to stay home from school all last week (he's 3 1/2) as were several others in his preschool class. The teacher seems to think that it's because they were home for two weeks straight during winter break. My son actually CRIED his first day back from break and he didn't even cry his first day of school in the fall. He was like that the whole week and even pretended to be sick to stay home. Could that be what's going on with your son? It must be so very difficult because of his language delay for you to know for sure. Some of the emotions he's displaying may also be that he is frustrated with not being able to communicate with you. Sorry you are going through this. I hope it isnt anything serious.

Answer 3

I am 16 now but I have the same problem plus more problems as your son .I sort of rember preschool how this one girl all way wanted me to play and talk with hersince she wante be my friend but i did,t talk to her since i culd,t tal well so she just push me all the time and took toys only from me since she wanted me to hang out with her and she did't nderstand why i could' talk. An other reason your son might hate school is that maybe his teachers are treating him like he is stiuped by not letting him do certain things or they are not taking the time to let him learn since teacher usally only seem to have time for the kids who learn things in 10 seconds. yes you have all the right to spy on your son at school that what my mom did when i was in preschool and kingerden which got me held since she was able to yell at the teacher all make sure i get all the help i need if it was'nt for that spying and dum speech programs she put me in i would be in the more worst then i am now
sorry this is so so long and my spelling is bad and i hope you can find all the help for son so he will have to thrught less speech stuff when he gets older.

Answer 4

Absolutely, my baby is 5 in preschool.
She was comming home and telling me that a 'bad boy' pulled her hair.
The teacher pulled me aside and said 'sometimes when little boys like girls, they pull hair and hit, we talked to him, and sent a note home to parents'
A week later i come to find out that he pulled another girls hair.
A week after that he was at a classmates b-day party, acting up the whole time. I was appauled that the mother didn't do anything.
A few weeks after that the other parents started to talk about the 'goings on'.
My daughter had her hair pulled 3 times, and was head butted by him, two other girls had their hair pulled, one boy was scratched and spat on, and another girl was hit on the back.

I called the teacher and told her thta i had enough.
I pay $9 a day to send my little girl to school, to play and learn. NOT to get picked on, or beat on.
The teachers clamimed to keep an eye on this child, claiming tht he has ADHD, and that they didnt want to give up on him.
Like i said, i had enough. They ended up moving him to another class.
Today was the first day wihtout this little hellion, and the kids were actually happy, and smiling.
What was the difference, this child!

One of the mommies said that her little boy completely changed when he started school, but he took alot of the abuse from this boy.
Hopefull he will recover from the abuse.

You have the right to observe what is going on in the class room. Especially if you are paying for it.
Tell the teachers that you want to spend the day, and maybe read to the children, they would probably appreciate the help, and you would get to see the everyday goings on.
Don't be surprised if the teachers act nicer than usual to your child, it is just that usually, an act.

Are you from PA?
Just wondering, you might have gotten our 'bad boy'

Answer 5

There is a very good chance that your child is being teased by a bully. There are bullies everywhere and it can be difficult, especially for parents. Contact the teachers and make them aware of your concerns. Speech therapy will help

When my 5 year old began school, he didn't want to share any of this information with me either and what I learned was that he discovered that I wasn't his "world" any more, Yes, there is a part of growing up when our children learn they can separate their space from "Mommy's".
I cried when this happened but also glorified in it as it taught me that I was doing a good job in raising my son.
He is now a 25 year old well adjusted young man

Answer 6

well I am sure there is a possibility that get are making fun of him.and the teacher could be inpatient with him.you can always go and stand out his school classroom or at recess.You might want to talk the princebel

Answer 7

I would make an unannounced visit to the school and see for myself, as a parent you have the right to do that. Don't just dismiss it because don't hate school overnight something has happened. Good luck.

Answer 8

It could be that he's being picked on for his speech problems. Enroll him in Speech therapy.