I have a beautiful baby girl as my niece. She's ****** beautiful and looks like a model baby with blue eyes. Not just saying how beautiful she is, since she is a part of me, my family...she really is. However, I've only seen her once. My brother is 28 and a immature 28 year old who hasn't seen his daughter at all. He briefly dated this girl who is sweet but apparently when she told him she was pregnant by him he chose to ignore it and now he thinks she is pissed at him for not standing by him. Well...I would be too...she sent me and my real mom pictures of the baby from christmas and cards and have invited us to see the baby. My real mom have but my dad and step mom say I should talk to the girl and have no contact with the baby because the baby will be confused I'm involved and not her father, my brother. Do you think it's fair my brother not be involved in the baby's life because he is being selfish and wants to live a hollywood lifestyle. He has to pay child support and ...
2007-01-17 06:26:42 · 4 answers · asked by alwayscheerin49ers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and all expenses are 50/50. I was even told my niece and her mommy got selected to be in American Baby Magazine and won something with baby gap. I love my brother and have to respect his decision but I also resent him for not handling this and stepping up to this. My dad hasn't even see his grand child and my step mom said not to be involved because it's not fair to the child. I think they are wrong but I don't want to go against my family...it's only our loss by not being involved and in time my brother will realize what he has done and it could be too late and my niece could make the decision and turn her back on him...
2007-01-17 06:31:21 · update #1
Hey you have a niece- she is your family too. If her mother is offering you the opportunity to be involved in her life, it is your choice to be involved or not. Your dad, your stepmom, and yur brother have made their own choices NOT to be involved. They can't make choices for you. Your niece deserves to have as many loving peole in her life that are willing and have good intentions toward her- if that includes you then she is lucky that you are able to see that it is about her and her best interests- not the pettieness and irresponsibilities of your brother. Do what you feel is right and let the others in your family make decisions for themselves. The only thing the baby would be confused about is people coming and going in her life- make sure if you decide to be a part of her life you commit and stay a part of her life. Good luck.
2007-01-17 06:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is unfair for the child to have you in her life even though the father is not involved. She will at least know someone on his side of the family loves her. In time he will have to take responsibility for the baby by paying child support, but you can't make him want to be a part of the child's life if he doesn't want to. It is sad for children to have to go though this but it happens.
2007-01-21 04:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - family dynamics at their best and worst all at the same time. I disagree that it would be unfair to the child for you to be involved and not the father. I think it's important that she know your family, even if your brother chooses not to be involved. It's possible that he would even change his mind about being involved if you all were. I suppose it depends on how much trouble/strife it would cause with your brother....if he would disown the family....that would be immature as well but in the end, you know your family better than anyone else. Bottom line: That baby girl needs to know her whole family in my opinion.
2007-01-17 06:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by yakimaniacs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely its not correct on part of ur brother to leave his girlfriend and her baby jst because he now doesnt need them , they are his responsibility and he must take care of them. and here taking care does not only means sharing expenses it means giving love and affection to each other and living like a family. if the child does not get the love and support of a father he/she loses a lot and is not able to develop as a responsible and good human being. this also cause obstruction in growth of the child and she will not be able to become a sself reliant and self confident individual, if she gets to know th etruth wen she grows up she will never respect her father n might even stop believin in institution of a family.
2007-01-17 06:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by chinks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋