How come there's times when I really want baby and times when the thought of having a baby makes me sick?

Question

I just got married a year ago.

Thanks everyone! I thought maybe I was weird, but looks like it's pretty normal. I don't have any girlfriends to relate to about it. All I have is my hubby who really wants kids and it seems like there isn't any doubt in his mind. So, it got me thinking maybe there was something wrong with me. Thanks again you were all so helpful!

Answer 1

It is perfectly normal . You and your husband are still newlyweds and are trying to find your path in life together first. My guess is your not ready yet, and waiting another year to conceive won't hurt anyone.

Answer 2

That's normal. Even when I was pregnant the first time (I was married about a year when I got pregnant, actually within a few days of our anniversary) there were times I was thrilled and times I thought, "Oh, God, I hope I'm ready" and times I thought "I don't think this was good timing". It's just the uncertainty and not knowing what life will be like, especially if you've never had a child. It's an unknown. My daughter just turned two, and I can't imagine life without her. I'm ready for another. Can't believe I ever doubted it. It's kind of funny to me now.

Answer 3

I think your feelings may vary because some days you may feel more "motherly" and more responsible and ready to have a baby than on other days. And this may be because having your period or ovulating is only ONE way your body tells you that you are ready. I've heard that when you're fertile, signals are sent to your brain preparing you for a 9-month journey and making you feel more confident when it comes to having a child. So this could go on for sometime, depending on how strong these hormones are. It's perfectly normal. I would say that until your feelings start to become more consistent, hold off on having a child. Don't do it unless you feel completely ready and feel that you are at a good point in your life to start a family. Do it when you have had no doubts for quite some time.

Answer 4

That is just perfectly normal. There are also people out there that will ask themselves after having kids, when they're being real brats, "Why did we want kids?" They're a real joy most of the time and I think you'll know when you're ready if you trust yourself. If you find that you really want a baby when you're around one and don't really want a baby when none are around, it's probably that contagious "aren't babies so cute syndrome" that we all experience from time to time. Trust your instincts and wait until you feel it's the right time for the both of you and don't let anyone (family included) rush you into something that you just might not be ready for right now! Good luck!!

Answer 5

wanting a baby is natural. i always wanted bouncing babies. then i got pregant. the thought that makes you sick is based solely on all the negative stories you may have heard about the pain, the screaming, the many things that can go wrong during pregnancy, delivery and even after delivery.

put it all out of your mind- each pregnancy is different even for the same woman. i had my baby 4 sept 2006 and i was upset (not even sick) for exactly one day throughout the 9 mths. had discomfort in my back sometimes no pain. 2-1/2hrs hard labour and out came josiah!!

i am not saying that yours will be like mine (though i would wish you it as easy) but don't let the negatives take away the joy of motherhood. when u hear a woman talking of the labour pain ask her about the firsts-

- time she held her baby
- the first time he touched her
- the first time he held his bottle
- the first creeping push he tried
- the first step...

it is never easy but the joy outweighs the pain. i still look at my son and say 'i made him!!!'

guess i got carried away- that's what motherhood does to you :-)

Answer 6

Because on one side, you want to make something wonderful with your husband that is a part of you. You want to bring someone into the world who will love you and need you and who you can teach to (hopefully) teach to make the world a better place and carry a part of you to the future. On the other hand, having a baby isn't all rainbows and smiling happy times, it will bring many changes, stress, financial/emotional/physical hardships to you and your husband. While you want to be needed, you will also find it hard to be depended on. On that side, you don't know if you're ready for the responsibility. These are all normal feelings to have. If I were you and only had been married a year, i would wait. Like i said, baby will bring change to your life, and that includes your relationship. Make sure that you give yourselves time to enjoy each other, and your relationship with him time to develop and grow strong, before bringing someone else into the mix.

Answer 7

This is totally normal. I tried not to think about the actual birth part of it. As crazy as it may seem, the pain is worth the end result. I will never forget the pain(despite what others might say) but when you see that little one look up at you, nothing else compares.

Answer 8

Its normal. Babies require selflessness and tirelessness. Not something someone considers without some sense of trepidation.

Every woman goes through it, even when pregnant, and even after the baby is here. Its overwhelming at times. But at some point the desire to have one, out weighs all the reasons not to.

Answer 9

it is normal we all at times really want a baby and then we will really think about the responsibilities of it and the freedom you have will be gone there is alot involved so the more you think about the more you think maybe not lol

Answer 10

because you are human I feel exactly the same way I have had a couple of times where my period was late and I was scared I might be pregnant but then when I found out I was not pregnant I was very disapointed