We just got back together, and this girl that he claims was just a friend came by , she seemed very upset and rushed up to his room saying she wanted her pillow, and left. he says nothing happened. he says that he didnt even kiss her she just stayed over one night. She is seriously ugly and i know he loves me. but is he lying? or does it even matter since we were technically not together? He is always asking me about the guy I was hanging out with while we were broke up. shouldnt i ask too?
2007-01-17 06:19:22 · 20 answers · asked by Lola 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
something happened with him and that girl. and i'll help you out with this one.
let's put it all in perspective:
1. you were broken up
2. another girl was involved
3. she was ugly, (meaning he went after anything he could get)
4. She stayed over one night (keyword stayed, as in slept/spent the night, persumably in a bed with him). for what reason i don't know!!
5. he's asking you about someone you were hanging out with, because he feels guilty.
that is one too many factors>your boi is lyin. I would really question the status of your relationship. if he's lyin to you now he's probably lied to you before, and will continue to (maybe even worse). you definately should ask what happen when ya'll broke up. he won't admit it at first, if you keep drilling him he will feel guility and he may spit it out. either way damn near everybody elected this guy as being a liar, and you should to.
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2007-01-17 06:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Often the truth does more damage than good in matters like this. If you had no real commitment at the time, then it his business and you have no right morally or otherwise to ask him what went on. If he has not strayed before, then I would leave it well alone, and instead concentrate on your relationship together.
Finally, beware of the fact that relationships often undergo irreparable damage when breakups occur. This does not necessarily mean that the relationship is doomed, rather that the damage can has to be limited.
It is a bit like a physical wound. Look after the general well being of the affected area and one can only be left with a small scar. Scratching open old sores will not help, and may in fact make the scar much worse!!
2007-01-17 06:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
P*s#Y doesn't have a face. Men do not usually cheat with other women because they are more beautiful than their partners (i.e. Halle Berry, Pam Anderson...). And some girls enjoy being a part of thier little secret.
If you are considering getting back with this guy, you need to have standards-and stick to them. Even if it means letting him go.
I consider anything I could not do in front of my husband (or have to hide from him)-cheating. Those are the same things I will not put up with in a relationship.
Stay true to yourself...Good luck!
2007-01-17 06:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by tamarastarr2000 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He definetly messed around with her if he had her pillow. The fact that you weren't together basically means that you can see whoever you want right? Well since you saw a guy and he saw a girl when you weren't together then so what!!
You need to focus on what you want to do moving forward. If you think he will cheat on you then don't go out with him.
2007-01-17 06:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by vicprobey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, she came by to pick up her pillow. He is definately lying to you. And I am almost positive that if u asked what he did with her, he is definately going to lie. guys will say just about anything to keep one female around while he does what he wants with another. i am telling you this from experience.
2007-01-17 06:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a tiny lie. I wouldnt imagine that became a huge deal. yet my ex lied about a woman made up an entire tale about it and their courting and instructed me yet another tale about a distinct lady and him. seems neither lady became with him in any respect and he enable me have self assurance it for a three hundred and sixty 5 days. I in reality realized because I suddenly met between the ladies and reported it in passing & she had no clue. thankfully I stated I mustve idea he became talking about her yet wasnt. Ah the dramas of highschool.. I say a minimum of he's being difficulty-free with you presently and letting you recognize the reality. sturdy success!
2016-11-24 23:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by bleimehl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would matter to me if he were with somone else even if we were broken up, there are many sexual transmitted deseases out there. But what would matter to me most is starting again with already a lie. I know he is afraid to lose you by telling you the truth, so if you can accept his answer then let it go and good luck to you both.
2007-01-17 06:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your relationship was unstable to begin with and that the two of you do not trust each other. Without trust you have no relationship.
The two of you need to sit down and discuss trust issues. If you cannot come to an agreement on trust then you should end the relationship for good.
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-17 06:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shouldn't matter if you were not together, however, never good to start out with lies. Tell him everything you did and have him do the same if you two can not get past these silly questions.
2007-01-17 06:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your were not together don't worry about it. When he asks you questions about who you were with and what you did when you broke up don't answer he will throw it back in your face when ever he is doing something wrong. I say don't sweat it if he is faithful to you now that you are back together.
2007-01-17 06:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋