Well im 14 and all i do is think about that I have dreams and everything but I think I am to young to be thinking about that. It's like when I am around boys I just can't control myself even if I know I have a boyfriend. I just can't stand not being near a boy. I just love dancing with them and making out with them. So what do I need to do cause I have almost lost my virginity from that stuff one day so can yall please help me!!
2007-01-17 05:57:25 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone goes through this at your age - guys and girls. You need to be strong and wait until your married or at least older. Imagine what it would be like if you had to tell your parents you were preggers!
2007-01-17 06:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by shomaliatimalla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't go any where alone or where a guy is with you in a room together. Its very normal for a 14 year old to feel these feelings so your not to young to think about sex just to young to be having sex. Definitely try to keep involved in some kinda possitive activity maybe sports or somthing and try to stay possitive about your schooling and future cause if you have a baby that young you can kiss your young life goodbye and forget about having the good college life. If you do end up having sex make sure you use a condom thats the most important thing never never never go with out a condom promise yourself that and you should be alright. Making out is fine just don't ever get completely naked cause believe me thats when it will happen, you just need to wait OK atleast a couple more years. Be good and good things will happen, Goodluck
2007-01-17 06:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. What is the thrill you find in all those nasty low lifes? The pleasure that you find is only temporary. In the end you're gonna wonder why you allowed yourself to be embarrassed like that. I'll bet on my life that the only time you're noticed by those boys is when they want something from you. After that, you're invisible to them. Remember, the only good boy for you is one that wants you untouched by others. Guys prefer that deep down. If you still don't understand what I'm trying to say, then I can't put it in any other form. Be careful, you might contract a disease by someone who won't remember your name 2 years from now. Also remember that you're not the only one going through that--you're just the only one that can do something about it.
2007-01-17 06:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by dee4eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about STD's and AID's and think all it takes is one time and plus you are not sure if that person doesnt have a STD oh too if you belive in god wich i am assumeing you do then think about what if god is looking at me right now and too if you at home with a boy make him leave and take a cold shower that will make you stop lol but seriously dont worry so much about tit it is just your hormones acting up it happends to everyone but everyone dont cat on it it may be hard to do but you will be able to do it oh and if you are like the type of person that likes to go out all the time then think about wha will happen if you would have a baby you wont be able to do the stuff u did be fore u got pragnet
well i know it is long but i hope that it helps
be blessed
2007-01-17 06:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Brandi S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls mature faster than guys do, it's a known fact. You (in the public eye and mine) are too young for this kind of thing but there's nothing that says you can't dream about it.
You have a boyfriend but it seems he doesn't do it all for you (short of having sex) to keep you interested.
You're young and there is plenty of time for you to have a long lasting relationship just don't be so quick to settle down. Explore all of the avenues and possibilities.
2007-01-17 06:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that sex is not only a physical act, but part of a strong emotional relationship. Don't have sex for the sake of having sex, because it will leave you feeling empty and used if you get into the habit. Masturbate if you need to feel the release and the pleasure of sex, but do yourself a favor and hold off losing your virginity, you'll be happier for it. Save yourself for your husband, it's truly a gift that you can only give once.
2007-01-17 06:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by McB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something you can do is wear a hair tie or rubber band around your wrist. Then, anytime you find yourself thinking an inappropriate thought, snap your wrist (not too excruciating pain, but just enough). It may take a while, but eventually, your brain will get the message, and you'll stop thinking about it as much.
Also, anytime you think about sex, immediately jerk your thoughts to a completely different topic. Think about shopping with friends, or schoolwork or something...even childhood memories. Think about your family. Anything to get your mind off of it.
Hope that helps. :)
2007-01-17 06:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be very hard with all those emotions to not have sex. I think maybe you should just try and make sure you're not left alone with a boy. You're just way too young to have sex. You don't want to regret anything, or end up pregnant. And you don't want boys to like you just because of what you're willing to do. But if you do decide to participate, then make sure your educated about the consequences, and what precautions to take to make sure its safe.
2007-01-17 06:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a cold shower, you are a normal 14 year old girl. You need to talk to someone you trust (an adult). Join sports, start volunteering. Helping someone else can help keep your mind off yourself. And for heavens sake hold onto your Virginity like a bank account, the interest will pay off in the future.
2007-01-17 06:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by LoneStarLou 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your parents if they are open. You are going thru this like everyone else. I went thru it. I didn't make out, though. I had enough fear in me to avoid it (til I was 18)
If you have sex before 17, the boy could go to jail for statutory rape even if you agreed to have sex.
There are diseases you should be aware of as well. Having sex is not just about pleasure. Its A WHOLE LOT MORE TO IT
2007-01-17 06:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural to think about things like that, but you shouldn't worry about that right now! You're only 14-years-old and you want to lose your virginity now? You need to think about the consequences and how much this will affect those that love and care about you. Besides, anything can happen if you chose to have sex with him! You're too young to stress about it and concentrate on more important things in your life!
2007-01-17 06:04:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋