He sent a myspace message to her talking about him going to FL to see her, and she was going to start jogging so she could be slim and sexy like me....I confronted him about it last night. I was mad... and I told him that I was. He said it was nothing and it shouldn't matter because we were on a break. I understand that, but she was trash talking me and he was going along with it.
Well all of the sudden he said "So what do you wanna want to do about us?". I didn't say one thing about breaking up or anything...so I don't know where this came from. He said he would let me sleep on it till this morning and I could give him my answer then. I think that he wants out of this relationship or is seeing someone on the side.
Can I get your opinions please....
Myspace will miss up a relationship I agree. But this girl is on his phone under the name of Tim....I understand all is fair game when your on a break... But she doesn't have to trash talk me, my friends didn't trash him!
2007-01-17 05:55:57 · 11 answers · asked by angel2005_2001 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to ask yourself some hard questions.
Is this guy being honest with you? Honesty is the foundation of any great relationship, so if you don't have that, you don't have anything.
Do you trust him? If you decide to stay with him, are you going to spending all the time that you aren't with him assuming that he's cheating on you?
Can you really be with someone that bad mouths you? Someone who truly cares for you is going to stick up for you no matter what...break or no break.
Is he worth the trouble? Obviously your relationship is facing some problems. Are you both willing to fix them? You both need to understand that fixing problems in a relationship is a lot of work, takes a lot of time, and requires 200% effort from both partners.
Does he want to be in the relationship? A relationship can never work if only one person wants to be in it 100%. If he feels that he needs to date other people, then that's what you all should do. It might make you realize that there isn't a better match for you out there or you might find someone 10 times better.
I hope this helped. Be honest with each other and definitely be honest with yourself. Good luck.
2007-01-17 06:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by shallybles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loved you, he wouldn't have let her trash talk you and he wouldn't be telling her he is going to come see her. Even if your on a break or not. If he cared he would have been home and upset about everything. It sounds like he wants out of the relationship. Ask him if he wants to break up or does he want a relationship with you. Tell him if he wants to stay with you, it's only going to be you, not you, him and someone on the side.
2007-01-17 14:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear, but you should have NEVER agreed to a "break"
ALL WOMEN: NEVER AGREE TO A BREAK!!!!! Ask any honest guy friend you have, it's just an excuse to sleep with another girl, without you having the right to get mad!!!
Sorry Dear, but I thing you should leave him! I mean come on-break or no break, he was trashing you to another girl! Grow a back bone!
2007-01-17 14:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think even if you were on a break he still should have defended you but guys are like that if they think there gonna get somewhere with a girl and shes trashing you he will to ask him to be the one who decides what happens then you know where you stand and if he wants out youll know it dont make the decission for him thats what he wants
2007-01-17 14:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, LET HIM GO.. whatever for the break, if he wanted to stay true to you and get back together, he wouldn't even be concerned with this girl. AND hes hiding her name under a guys name on his phone?! WHATEVER.. let him go. They are both trash, whats the point of her talking about you? If she had him locked she wouldnt need to talk bad on your name.
2007-01-17 14:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't ahve to deal with this in a relationship but so many do. You have to demand the respect you deserve! If he sounds unsure about your relationship and you know that he was talking to someone else, then let the guy go. There are so many other guys out there! Goodluck, girl :)
2007-01-17 14:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by rachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His friends, your friends, people in Florida, people all over the world - forget about it.
Sit down and figure out what you want to do about your relationship with your boyfriend. Skip the drama.
2007-01-17 14:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a break? What in the heck does that mean. "I still want you, I just wanna' sleep with some other chicks for a while"???????? Dump him!! he is a Loser
2007-01-17 14:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go on about his business. Dump him before he dumps you. He will cheat on you if you stay with him.
2007-01-17 14:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to break up with you to be with her
2007-01-17 14:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋