I need a guys advice what I should do. I've been "seeing" this guy "B" since abuot Halloween (that's when we first met)...so almost 3 months. We spend atleast 3 nights a week together, and I always end up sleeping at his place or he's at my place overnight on the weekends. He's wayyyy good looking (he does modeling) and he's 22. I'm sure he can get any girl he wants, but he spends most of his free time with me. I'm 22 also. He texts me all day long (usually sex-related in some way) and we hang out with each other to have sex....or so it seems. But I also go over there and just chill with him and his 2 guy roommates (who love me and always say in front of him that they wish they could find a chick that's as cool as me) He knows I go out to bars and probably that I might hook up with other guys, and I've even gotten a few jealous text messages from him like "Let me know if anyone hits on you"He also took me to his company Christmas party (and paid A LOT .....con't below....
2007-01-17 05:55:52 · 9 answers · asked by QT from Cali 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for a nice hotel room that night) and has pix of me and him on his MySpace. His roomates/best friends have said that he likes me too. The thnig is, "B" and I have never had "the talk"--like is this just a booty call, are we dating, is he looking for a relationship...etc. etc. He's really not the type to bring that kind of stuff up, so I guess I have to. Is that a bad idea? I was thinking of getting drunk (like usual when we're together lol) and just asking him like "So what are we doing here? Am I just a booty call to you or something else?" Will that like totally scare him away? I have nooooo idea what his answer might be. Let me know your thoughts!!! I might ask him TONIGHT!
2007-01-17 05:56:38 · update #1
You know, and I KNOW, that you're JUST a "booty call". He's NEVER going to take you more serious than that. If you want more, then you need to move on. As far as the talk goes, go ahead, but are you PREPARED for his answer? If not, better not ask!
2007-01-17 06:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd be a little more tactful than just asking him if you're only a booty call. Just ask him honestly where the relationship stands. I'd tell him something along the lines of that you really enjoy his personality and the time you've spent together and you're curious about how he feels on where this might be going. Sometimes you just have to grow a pair and tactfully ask "What's going on in your head?". Ask him what he's looking for out of a relationship. Etc.
2007-01-17 06:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go at him so aggressively. Don't ask if you're a booty call. You're going to put him on the spot and he's going to tell you you're not... even if you are. Understand?
What you should do is this:
Bail out on your plans with him a couple of times in a row. Tell him that a co-worker or something invited you to lunch/dinner/whatever... and you think you're going to go. If he gets jealous, say something like "Well, if I had a boyfriend I would have said no... " very casually.
Play the jealousy game a little bit... force him to lead.
2007-01-17 06:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y'understand... she SAYS she would not want any strings or supplies you - and in the present day she likely believes that - yet in the present day (I take it the divorce has those days develop into very last.>?) she's in an truly weird and wonderful position emotionally. in case you do make your self accessible for a booty call (or more effective), the outcome might want to be more effective confusion for those thoughts. If what you're finally after, the timing isn't large for you. in the present day you're searching like the transitional guy, and in case you do take this grant up, it truly is all you're in all probability to be - although if it drags on for years and looks to be a proper relationship. (I;ve seen it take position. One individual's dedicated & the different individual isn't, although in the experience that they are trying to be). once you're in basic terms after some relaxing, it would want to be ok. yet she might want to come to a level the position she might want to believe that she needs more effective from you, even regardless of the reality that she somewhat would not. Like I say, an truly complicated emotional time. t's a slippery slope. good success.
2016-10-15 09:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely not just a booty call if he hangs with you for any amount of time, which it sounds like he does. It kinda sounds like he doesn't want to commit, but does have feelings for you. I would say go ahead and ask him in a casual way. Good luck.
2007-01-17 06:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found Castle advice quite wise. Despite his proposing you to play a bit hard (jealousy game), that will work, and you'll know.
Ask for the status of a relationship...BAD IDEA, always. Go casual, he'll gets it.
2007-01-17 06:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by L.J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say even half of what you wrote on here to him and your questions will all be answered, right from the horses mouth!
2007-01-17 06:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by yawhosucs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to be more than F buddies. But if it bothers you that much I would just ask him what the situation is
2007-01-17 06:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with the flow! you might start ruining things, because all of us guys fear those four little words... "we need to talk"!!
2007-01-17 06:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋