My girlfriend was a victim of workplace harrassment four years ago. To this day, she still swears that a network of secret agents is coaxing her friends and current coworkers to spy on her and "sabotage" her life.
Anything that goes wrong in her life now -- her car was hit-and-run while parked, she was let go from a bar tender's job, etc. -- is blamed on her boss from four years ago and his network of spies.
I told her that she is paranoid and needs to see a shrink; she agreed, but only when she finds "the right one." She barely drinks and does not use drugs. She did use some sort of tranquilizer in the past, but can't get them anymore.
On the days that she works (she is a peon in a Supermarket), she is sort of rational, but still insists that people are following her.
On her days off, she stays in bed all day, eats my food (she leaves the lids and covers off of all the food containers), chain smokes cigarettes and cries uncontrollably. She says that all her aspirations have been ruined by "these people" and wants to die, or "leave."
I remind her that I own a truck and can move her out the next day -- she gets even more depressed after that.
Yesterday, I said something funny to her and she laughed for a few minutes. Twenty minutes later, she was crying for no reason saying that she wanted to leave. Ten minutes after that she was yelling at me, "I don't know who you are dealing with behind my back! But I want to know! I also know that these people are finding you another girlfriend. I know that for a fact!"
She's been on her period for a few days, but I think this is sort of extreme.
What the hell is wrong with her? What should I do?
2007-01-17 05:52:59 · 12 answers · asked by psychosolodiver 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's a type of depression that went paranoid. They now have a one needle a month therapy that takes care of it.
BUT, if she won't seek help, you can't do it for her.
2007-01-17 06:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by poutine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems like she is a bit bi-polar with the extreme changes in behavior, and with the paranoia she also may be schizophrenic. You need to get her to a physiciatrist ASAP--the great thing about all this is with follow up and proper medication she can live a practically normal life. She needs your help and support, be there for her and let her know that this is how the demons will go away. If you have to trick her by telling her that you have hired her a private detective to help her with the location of the spies do that--she needs some intervention, and you can help!!!
2007-01-17 06:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to see a doctor. Although this may be difficult because she will probably think he is one the spies. Get one to come out to you if she wont go see one. Or if u can't do that go to the doctors youself and talk to a doc face to face about your girlfriend. She definately needs medical intervention. I can recognise myself in her (I have manic depression), Igot to the stae where I belived that my whole family were out to get me and had actually kidnapped me as a child from somewhere so they weren't my real family. At one point I thought they had changed my sex.
Anyway I'm better now and can see such thoughts as delusional and your g/f will too but she needs help before she gets so outof control that she needs to be hospitlised b/c she is a danger to herself or others.
Be as understanding as u can and try and imagine u were ur girlfriend, how woud you want your boyfriend to treat u? U need to show u are on her side before she starts to not trust you. Love her and reassure her above all.
Hope this helped and hope she gets better soon
Nic
2007-01-17 06:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps no longer actually psycho yet she definately has a situation! in case you like her adequate and actually choose to handle it you may attempt to get her some help. If it particularly is not probable that severe for you purely attempt to tell her interior the nicest way obtainable yet to permit you already know the actuality take some secure practices measures. You in no way understand what human beings will do.
2016-12-12 13:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds paranoid/delusional, and depressed. She needs to go a mental health professional for help. Delaying it won't help and if the first one isn't a fit she will find the right one. Sometimes it takes time, to find a good therapist. She should ask her Dr. for referrals. Get her help. You can't continue in this relationship the way it is now. Good luck and God bless you both.
2007-01-17 06:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Suel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She need a psychiatrist and she needs one NOW! Call anyone and everyone in the phone book and take her there yourself. Not a psychologist or a therapist. She may need psychotropic drugs and only an MD can prescribe them.
This has nothing to do with her TOM. She's exhibiting seriously disturbed behavior.
2007-01-17 06:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by chieromancer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you said she once held a bartending job, you made no mention of the times that she is not "barely drinking"! Are you certain of her drinking habits? Alcohol is cunning and baffling! You also failed to mention the exact length of time you have known her. I once hung out with a woman like this. However one visitation by the police to my place was enough for me to hit the road!
2007-01-17 06:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by Brian H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thought that comes to mind is crystal meth but you said she doesn't do stuff like that.
Stress/paranoia is definitely a problem, it would be nice if you and her could move away somewhere so she can feel like the past is truly the past and start over.
2007-01-17 06:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sean 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn! she really needs 2 talk 2 sumone. have u ever sat her down and asked her where she's gettin these feelings from? u need 2 try 2 talk to her 1st and then if that doesn't work insist that she shes sumone. this is going to ruin her life if this continues.did u promise her u wouldn't leave her?
2007-01-17 06:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't threaten to kick her out it will only make matters worse, a large majority of her behavior is due to a mental illness she needs to be treated for, you need to get her to a doctor and get her help.
2007-01-17 10:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋