I've been dating someone for a year and he refuses to commit himself... he believe's he already is commited because he buys me gifts, he's introduced me to his family and a couple of his friends. I don't personally know any of his friends but I have given him the opportunity to get to know my friends - so much that he is comfortable calling them (he even calls my mother!). We live in different cities and he doesnt work or have a home (he lives with his friends parents). We live about 40 miles from each other. I'm a student and have my own home. He wanted to move in 2/3 months into the relationship but I thought this was too soon. I suggested we wait a couple more months - he agreed. Then 2 months passed and he had no intention of moving in. A year into our relationship he tells me he loves me and wants to be with me. But has not made any plans to look for work. No plans to move in. Which suggests to me that he doesnt want to take relationship further. Am I right?
2007-01-17 05:51:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's got a good thing going right now. He is being supported by someone else's mom, doesn't have to work and he is in a comfort zone with your relationship. He is perfectly content with the way things are. He has no reason to make any changes. Do you really want this guy to move in with you so you can support him and he can mooch off of you instead of whoever he's mooching off of now?
2007-01-17 06:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is just using you, I suggest you move on. If he doesn't want to take your relationship to a next level that proves he just wants to use you and than break your heart someday. Tell him that if he doesn't commit to you and the relationship, it will be over. If he says he will change and never does, don't be dumb by staying with him and letting him use you for sex. He is a lazy Jerk, forget about him, you deserve someone who will treat you like a princess, love you tremendously, and will commit to the relationship 100 % Listen to my advice and write me if you have any questions.
2007-01-17 06:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by strong and beautiful 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in line with danger you are able to start up speaking approximately transferring in at the same time yet i would not rush this. The greater you push and stress the plenty greater in all danger it incredibly is that he will run away scared. you are able to desire to communicate approximately the place you notice the courting in 2, 5, 10 years and so on. If he sees you in his destiny then supply him time to propose and get there. it incredibly is purely been 2 years, pass in, specific. marriage? no longer each and every person is waiting in those 2 years. he's in all danger additionally unclear approximately meshing your infants all at the same time and so on. it incredibly is a huge step for ALL of you so please be considerate of your infants. i could first communicate relating to the transferring in.
2016-12-14 02:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by boulger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL I SEE RED FLAGS GOING UP ALL OVER THE PLACE. NO JOB AND LIVING WITH SOMEONE'S PARENTS? ARE YOU SURE YOU WOULD WANT TO BE A SUGAR MOMMA. BECAUSE IT SOUNDS LIKE HE IS LOOKING FOR A MEAL TICKET. LET HIM GET A JOB AND OUT ON HIS OWN BEFORE TRYING TO GET A COMMITMENT OUT OF HIM. BECAUSE THAT WILL SHOW MORE MATURITY HE SEEMS TO LACK.
2007-01-17 06:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by baptism_by_fire_2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are ABSOLUTELY right! He is only "Playing". If he were serious, he would make some type commitment...not necessarily marriage, but more than you have now. Move on! He's done!!
2007-01-17 05:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are right. Do you really want to have to support him while going to school
sounds like a loser get rid of him fast and get on with your life.
2007-01-17 06:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by burnished_dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋