I hit my son?

Question

I want to apologize, but he darted out of the house. I told him he wasn't allowed to do any reading (a punishment for him, you understand), so I took the book when I caught him reading and whammed him hard across the head. He took off and he said he was telling his mother when she got back from work. I don't know what to do.
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Oh, yeah. he's 15

Answer 1

First off, you shouldn't be hitting him. You should never lay your hands on your kids because that's CHILD ABUSE. You can go straight to JAIL for this one. Not only this will get you into trouble, but he will also despise you for it, probably for a long time. Unless you want him to grow up HATING YOU then you better have it down in your right mind to not ever hit him again.

Hitting doesn't really solve anything. I understand that anger gets the best of you, but you gotta learn how to control yourself. Next time he pisses you off, you should just stay away from him for a bit, go take a walk or something. When you get back & you feel more calm, you should sit down & talk to him. Keep in mind that he's only 15 years old, you can't expect him to be perfect all the time. He's still in the process of growing up, maturing & learning. You as a parent, especially as his Dad, your duty is to teach him right from wrong. Your duty is to guide him & makes sure he grows up right & goes the right direction in life. A great parent comes great PATIENCE. Hitting him is giving him the example that it's right to hit people & he will go out & probably grow up & do the same thing to his own son. Worse case scenario, if you continue this behavior hitting him, he will grow up to hate you. I'm serious too. That's your son for god sakes, you are his father & he counts on you to be there for him & to teach him to be a better person every time he screws up! not to make him feel bad & like a loser by hitting him.
THINK ABOUT IT.


you also better hope he doesn't call the cops on you. and yes, an apology is a good idea. A sincere one when he's calmed down because right now he won't listen to you, he's too busy being pissed off at you for hitting him. You should think about this really hard. Do you want a son who will hate & disrespect you? or do you want a son who will love & look up to you? TAKE YOUR PICK. either way, you will realize it in the end.

Answer 2

Why would you use not being able to read as a punishment? Anyway, call his mother and tell her what happened, before he tells her and she over reacts.Afterward, give him a couple hours to cool off and explain that your sorry for hitting him, don't tell him you'll never do it again, just say that you got caught up in the moment, but maybe you should get that under control. He is 15 and soon enough he will be able to hit you back, but you don't want to make this a cycle. But please, just a concerned citizen, please don't use not being able to read as a punishment, your lucky that he even wants to pick up a book and read instead of causing havoc elsewhere.

Answer 3

Hello, first of all ask yourself why you got so upset when you saw him reading I understand it was a punishment for him but if you need too hit him you need too on the rear in but in most or almost cases hitting children is abuse maybe you need too ask yourself why you lost control your are supposed too be his teacher & father so ask yourself what you taught him by hitting him on top of the head with the book . You didn't say what he was reading but it still doesn't matter you shouldn't have hit him.
Hitting someone in the head could cause damage that you surely don't want him too have so Please ask yourself why you lost control & try too be a model parent for him teenagers are testy of their parents how well I know mine are 22 & 25 & still very testy but you will make it thru this but apoligize only if you mean it he needs too know you care & love him do something with him where its just you & him more . Take care & Good Luck

Answer 4

Why would you think it was okay to do this to your son? That is abuse. I would have ran too if I were him. Why stick around an unstable position? Put yourself in his shoes! What would you have done? It sounds like you need some counseling - your wife is going to be so mad. This is her baby, you can't just hit him because you are mad. If you really feel bad, I would call her yourself and tell her what happened. I would do anything they ask to repair this mess. Take responsibility, you are the parent, he wants to look up to you. Make him think you are a good person.

Answer 5

He needs a little time to cool down, and maybe you do too.
When he comes home, apologize and tell him he still has to obey the house rules.
Hitting him like that wasn't right and showed lack of self control, but it doesn't sound like a big deal. It wasn't illegal, if that's what you are worried about. You are right to apologize; your son will respect you for that, as I do. As his parent, you still have the responsibility to discipline him.
"No reading" as a punishment does sound weird, but I don't know your son. You don't mention why he was being punished.
Hey, it reminds me of when I hit my 15-year-old daughter. I was trying to pull her out of bed to go to school (a dumb idea, with a teenager) and she hit me and I reflexively hit her back. Neither of us was hurt, but I gave up and she went back to sleep. Later she told a counselor that I hit her frequently (I didn't, but even if I had, it's not illegal to spank a minor "child"). The counselor heard my account also, but was required by law to report what my daughter said to CPS. I never heard anything from the authorities.
Raising a teen is quite a challenge.

Answer 6

I understand how u feel I have a 16 year old son and my wife kills me when I hit him.
Sometimes i just get so angry with him if your son is anything like mine then he usually does the opposite of what you tell him to do.
what kind of book did he have?
Try to explain to your wife the reason for your action.
Hope i helped!!

Answer 7

You need to enroll yourself into anger management classes. And not reading as a punishment? That's horrible, at least he was enriching his mind. He could've been doing worse things, like dealing or doing drugs, for instance. I only support hitting when it's an absolute must (if someone is going to hurt themselves or those around them). You should call your wife and let her know so she doesn't hear it from him first.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

When i was a kid i was hit alot so i guess all i would have wanted is a why and im sorry and promise it will never happen again and most of all an i love you

Answer 10

O)o u ground your son from READING! your kidding me right? unlis it was a fun book why ground him from that. and You should NEEEEEVEEEER hit a kid in the head do you know how much that could hurt them? you trying to screw up your kids head? uh! grr if I was his mother I'd beat you. even if you was sorry or not.