I know my boyfriend loves me, but it sometimes seems like he loves his best friend more than he loves me. I completely understand that he should be able to spend good quality time with his friends, but it seems like they spend a little too much time together, and it takes up all my bfs time, and he's not able to spend that much time with me. It seems like every time I talk to him about coming over on a friday evening, he'll tell me that he can't because his friend is spending the weekend.... how much quality time does one guy need with his friend?! Am I just being overly possessive?
2007-01-17 05:31:00 · 8 answers · asked by Tara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is probably young and into his friends more than a relationship. That is just the way it is. At his age he is not that much into you. As a man gets older, he still likes to hang out with the guys but his prorities should at least change by then. Give him space, do things that get you busy. I can see how this bothers you but the more you stop him the more he will want to get away from you. You might decide that you and him are not ready for a committed relationship.
2007-01-17 05:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the opposite problem with my girlfriend. She is very possessive of me. But I can tell you that you are not being overly possessive in any way. And I respect the fact that you give him his space. The way I see it, your girl is one of your best friends. Depending on how long you have been with him, he should realize that you are his friend. And true some guys love there friends, but if really loves you, he will spend the time with you, or at least include you in some of his activities. Tell him that you love him, and that you want to be apart of his life, and if he really loves you and respects you, then he will willfully agree and spend more time with you.
2007-01-17 13:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitly over possessive. You need to start scheduling time with your friends. FRIENDS FIRST, and then boyfriends or girlfriends. My longest relationships (beside family) have been my friends. I've had the same best friend for 13 years, and I take her opinions over anyone elses because she knows me the best. I think he has it right to be spending all this time with his friends, plus you two seem pretty young- When you are older, this stuff wont be as important to you. Dont sweat it.
2007-01-17 13:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find some time to spend doing things with your friends and spend time with your BF after.
Best way to do this is to set up a BF/GF day. That way no matter what you two have you date night and so on.
2007-01-17 13:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should definitely be making an effort to spend some time with you as well. You need to talk to him about it. If things don't change you should consider letting him go.
2007-01-17 13:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i don't think so...but then again, we could both be over possessive...
i think you should want to spend as much time with your boyfriend as possible..there's nothing at all wrong with that. It just shows that you care for him...seems to me that you've given him enough space..maybe it's time to pull him back in a bit..
2007-01-17 13:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jovi Girl Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being too possesive. Just try talking to him and tell him how you feel. If that doesn't work, start spending more time with YOUR friends and less time with him and then see how he reacts.
2007-01-17 13:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by antsy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him
2007-01-17 13:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋