we have been seeing each other for 2 1/2 monts and are officially dating as of this week hes attentive and listens well and very affectionate and open but hes not very aggressive at somethings im dominate/independant and would like to play the submissive role sometimes i have been single for 3 1/2 yrs and would like a man to pamper and take charge so i dont have to do all the work all the time any sugesstions??
2007-01-17 05:29:47 · 16 answers · asked by sheri h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take his hand and put it where the sun don't shine ...
2007-01-17 05:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by mnencefront 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Consider letting him know... If you're not comfortable with that then leave a website on his computer for him to find... try a bdsm story on literotica.com that will hopefully give him the hint. Or buy him something from a sex store that might hint at your desires, consider renting a porn that acts out what you want in bed...
2007-01-17 05:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by lilmisshelpful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the thought in mind that a relationship is not a dictatorship. Let him have the space and time he needs to take the initiative and try not to do everything for him or make him feel that he has to have your approval.
2007-01-17 05:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a man more dominant than you.You are not going to change a submissive man. Unless he has closet tendencies he is waiting to release.
2007-01-17 05:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what u told us....tell him how u feel and what u need....
believe me I know all about this because my man was sweet and submissive when we first met but I told him to change his role because I love being wifey.... he understood perfectly....and I think your man will too.... men are happy to have submissive women...so good luck and im sure the both of you will enjoy it...just be real open and honest with him on what u want and need...and like....
2007-01-17 05:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by La'Grange 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt fit the bill of what your looking for then you need to end the relationship. He is who and what he is and YOU can not change him, nor should you try. You wouldnt want him to try to change you to be something or someone you are not ...would you? End it while its still a new relationship OR deal with him -as he is!!
2007-01-17 05:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that might be part of the reason that he likes you is because he doesn't take charge..and he wants a woman that does..go easy on him..sounds like he's insecure about alot of things himself and don't know how and what to do or be done..
take time to sit and talk to him about things, ask him the questions..why you don't do etc..and see what his reaction is
2007-01-17 05:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by lil bit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play hard to get.. I know your dating.. But let him call you.. Don't be the one to start everything..
It also depends on the guy.. He just might not be aggressive..
2007-01-17 05:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him instructions via email. I want you to bite a little. Stick your hand deep in my vagina and anus. Shake me, slap me a little so on and so forth.
Give him a book with good role models for him to read.
2007-01-17 05:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you won't allow the man to show you some respect, let him go and find yourself another puppet to control.
2007-01-17 05:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. And compromise. My wife hates that I am usually passive on things, but I know when she wants me to make a decision and I always take charge, especially when I tie her up.......winks!
2007-01-17 05:35:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋