Do many women have abandonment issues, or is it just my BF who thinks it could be true?

Question

PS yes, this particular pirhanna plagues me, but it brought up the larger issue of whether it's an individual personal problem, or just really common.- ??

Post post script:
Smile, thanks for your protective response. It turns out, I thought it was more rare, and he made me feel better by telling me that he seems to have seen this a few times before... and I actually felt better, like "Oh, I'm not even close to being the only one who goes through it." Like I said, though, thanks for lookin' out!

Answer 1

Women have abandonment issues because when they're little girls, 50%+ of all marriages end in divorce, which generally means Dad leaves, gets a new woman, makes more kids. Mom gets a new man, makes more kids. Those marriages end in divorce, the girls grow up without fathers very involved in their life, and end up not trusting men, or having skewed views on a man's behavior in relationships.

Answer 2

Well, if you mean you're clingy and don't like him to go hang with his friends, or even watch TV without you, I hear about women having that a LOT.

I don't know if it's "abandonment" issues - it might as well be described as insecurity based on bad borders (that is, unconsciously thinking of certain other people as extensions of one's own ego, so that when he goes off and does his own thing, one's mental coping function suffers ... a need for an 'audience' and the feeling of worthlessness that creeps in when the 'audience' leaves). I don't personally have these issues very bad but I've met at least five women who do, and more if you count meeting their SOs who complain about them. And I can sort of relate to the feelings involved; my "borders" are sloppy sometimes. I think that's a VERY common issue we have in relationships, especially when we are in relationships with men whose "borders" are sloppy the other way (they are afraid of intimacy).

Answer 3

I think it is fairly common, unfortunately, and my dad was the first one to do so. I was "lucky" enough that my parents didn't split and he was at home, but as soon as I started developing breasts, (becoming a woman) he completely withdrew from me physically and emotionally. I tried to replace him with a "boyfriend" and "boyfriends" eluded me for years. Then, in order to get a boyfriend, I started to sleep around and, of course, they leave and reject, too. I married, when I was 21 and was divorced at 23. Married again at 32, ended in divorce when I turned 37. I have finally been in a relationship for five years but every so often I still wonder when it will end and feel fortunate that it has gone this long.

Answer 4

Some women do have these issues. But by the very fact that you seem surprised by being labeled as such, it is my opinion that this is reverse-psychology and control used on your boyfriends behalf, so as to reinforce thought within you that you are afraid he will leave you, so you won't leave him, because he himself may have abandonment issues.

If this particular issue DOES plague you, you were already aware of it, and you didn't need the answer to begin with.

You obviously want to trust him not to leave you, correct?

Answer 5

It's common for people to have unresolved issues in their life

Answer 6

I think we all do at one time in our life. Every women goes through it.

Answer 7

Alot of women have that issues, for what reason I dont know.
Not all women are like that you need to prove it to your boyfriend.

Answer 8

Yes!

Answer 9

Many women DO have that issue, but that doesn't mean you have it.

Answer 10

yes it all stems from our parents and if we were raised in a single parent household or not