i had a relationship with a boy 4 three years..
i feel so empty..
2007-01-17 05:27:50 · 16 answers · asked by narnia-gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don"t wanna make anybody feel bad, but if ur broken hearted, then a broken heart CANNOT be fixed...take it from somone who knows...i've broken up with my ex b/f b/c i felt like we were growing apart,,,, i went around to see if there are other guys, but no one is like him....although he could care less now...what i do is play around with other guys, and walk it out with a smile....but the feelings are still there....even if the face hides it
2007-01-17 05:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by míss índєpєndєnt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the hardest thing in the world I feel so sorry for you. If there is no way of a reconciliation then you must try to keep occupied and see your friends/family/work mates etc. You can get stuck in a rut of depression and it makes it worse to climb out of the hole you are in. There are books and internet articles that may help you but the main thing is to keep yourself going and dont fill the gap with drugs or alcohol - this is what i did when my b/f broke up with me and it was very self destructive.
You must fill the emptyness with something else - friends and hobbies at first and eventually when you keep on filling the gap you will laugh and smile again - when you get to this stage you can find someone new in your life. I hope that you are ok and I dont under-estimate how hard it will be for you to move on. You must try to be strong as there are lots of other things Im sure in your life that need you to stay strong - family etc. I wish you all the very very best.
2007-01-17 13:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by Islandgirlss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to find yourself. Three years is a long time, but it isn't a forever thing. You need to find out who you are now. I am sure you are not the same person you were at the beginning of the relationship. Take some time off from serious relationships. Go have fun with the girls, learn a new hobby, if necessary do some casual dating, but all in all find out who you are now that that part is over. You just might find yourself better off.
2007-01-17 13:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by heather d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it feels bad but it will get better. Break-ups suck.
Some good things to do are:
1) Exercise vigorously every morning and evening. That it will stop you from getting depressed.
2) Talk about it so that you can let it out.
3) Take it easy. Your body is under serious stress so don't over-work it.
4) Always know that you are a wonderful person and that God will take care of you. Look for His hand in the days ahead. I believe that God is closest to you when you are weakest. Pray and He will give you strength.
2007-01-17 13:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by JiveSly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing!! Here's what I posted for someone else: "If you're still in contact with him in ANY way at ALL, then STOP. You must have no contact with him. Pack up all the stuff that reminds you of him. Go to www.brokenheartedgirl.com and download the Breakup Workbook, go to www.ivillage.com and check out the breakup message boards (there's a lot of good advice in there), and get the book "It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken" by Greg Behrendt. There are a lot of good tips at all of these places to help you get over someone. Best of luck to you". If you want to talk about it, email me at funnygrrl19@yahoo.com or message me on my 360 (link in my answers profile). My breakup happened on the 11th. :(
2007-01-17 13:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that will help this but time. If you feel like crying, venting or whatever then do it. It also helps to write a letter, not necessarily to send to him but just to get your feelings out. I wouldn't recommend dating someone until you really are ready because it isn't fair to you because eventually you are going to have to deal with that pain and it isn't fair to the other guy because until you are over you ex, the new guy won't completely have your heart and it isn't fair to him to be thinking that you are really into him and you are really wishing that it was your ex. No matter what you do, always talk your problems out.
2007-01-17 13:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by 3262m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating again. Wipe the slate clean. Enjoy finding someone else that compliments you as a person. Do NOT compare the date to your old BF!! Don't even think about it! Just go out and have a good time like before you dated your ex-boyfriend.
2007-01-17 13:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by David T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey you have to realize how precious you are and have the courage to move on...I know it seems hard now but you will get thru it...I had found my so called soulmate and she left me for two years..
I wanted to die, I hung in there and because it was meant to be she came back....If its meant for you they will see that and return....You.re a beautiful person others will see it :]
2007-01-17 13:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by marc r p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mind occupied...maybe join a new club or group. The key is to stay busy so you're not always thinking about him. I know how rough it is....time is the best medicine. Good luck :)
2007-01-17 13:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will heal. Try to get your mind on something else like work or a new hobby.
2007-01-17 13:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ikkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋