My girlfriend and her families good faimly friend recently had a death in the family. You may have seen it on the news. The Zahornacky man who was found in a lake this morning. I am leaving work early to go over there and was wondering the following.
Is it ok to bring flowers so soon? If so what kind?
Is there something else I could bring?
2007-01-17 05:25:00 · 25 answers · asked by DakotaPR7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well there are tons of people who are fantastic cooks that are there, my gf's mother being one of them so I am sure food is plentiful. I am going right from work, leaving early. So I may stop and get a small bouqet with white lillies. Thanks everyone, I gave you all a thumbs up!
2007-01-17 05:34:15 · update #1
White lillies.
2007-01-17 05:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are all kinds of cultural traditions...
is this family liekly to have a gathering at their house? Even if you don't go, some kind of prepared food might make thier lives and finances just a bit easier. I personally would appreciate that a whole lot more than flowers (especially bc they make me sneeze.)
Also, I don't know the situation, but if this has the media involved, might there be a related charity? Might a fund be set up for the family?
That would be the best of all.
May each of you, including the supporters, have all the support you need!
But if not,
Hey, help out with the food.
2007-01-17 13:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
flowers are good... though my assumption would be that they have plenty... Consider making food or purchasing some food... Cookies tend to go over nicely as do brownies... Offer to make/bring dinner for the family one night as I'd assume this is going to be rather drawn out and the last thing they care about right now is making food... Also in the long run, a small donation to a charity in honor of the man who passed away is probably the most heart-felt.
2007-01-17 13:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by lilmisshelpful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flowers are usually something sent to a funeral. Most people bring food, a few good ideas are basket of muffins, breads, etc, or meat tray, veggie tray, something for them to have when people come over, and it is also something for them to eat, because naturally people forget to each when they are grieving and really have no time to cook with all the preparations that need to be made. It is always been helpful when I have had a death in the family and people have brought over food.
2007-01-17 13:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Elvira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the South we bring food because it's the last thing the grieving family is thinking about. I've picked up fried chicken, a pie, made sandwiches... that sort of thing. The time to send flowers is to the funeral home before the viewimg of the body.
2007-01-17 13:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your being there for support is the most important thing you can bring at this time. There are so many things going on during a tragedy for a family, that having someone there for them is so important. You really don't have to bring anything, when you arrive, just ask if there is anything that they would like for you to do, or anything that they need. You are a good friend and I think just being that is the most important.
2007-01-17 13:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring something for the family to eat. There will be many people stopping by and there should be little finger foods, water, and soda for he host family and the guest to eat. If you bring a flower let it be a plant, if they have plants. Perhaps a fruit basket will do the job woth out over doing it
2007-01-17 13:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect for their sorrow and discipline to say the right thing...that's really all you need to have with you. If you are going around meal time perhaps pick up a meat and cheese tray from a local market...just in case anyone has skipped eating or simply doesn't want to go thru the trouble of preparing a meal...or seeming selfish for being hungry.
2007-01-17 13:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From experience:
Go over there and show your support. Be yourself. Don't avoid talking about the decease, since that is all the people that are grieving are thinking about. Most people avoid even saying their name, say it often.
Remember that there is no one way to grieve and the family members will grieve differently.
In the next few days bring food. Remind them of a past story of the decease, talk often about them.
2007-01-17 13:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your loss.
As strange as this may sound, bring a dinner. Something they can just throw in the oven and not worry about. The last thing they are going to want to do is cook something. So this way at least you know they are going to eat, in this time of sorrow
2007-01-17 13:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by terri2003anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's traditional to bring food to a mourning family, so that they don't have to prepare meals for all their visitors. There is a great cookbook out there called "Being Dead is No Excuse" that has recipes for all the traditional mourning foods from the South.
2007-01-17 13:29:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋