Me and my boyfriend Mark has been broken up for about 4 months now. Im 14 about 2 be 15. Im in a new realtionship with a new guy Chaz. But i havent had sex with the new boyfriend yet. I havent cheated on MArk or nuthin. The reason of or break up was to see new pple. i dont know how to tell Mark that im pregant with his baby. And we dont even talk anymore. or nothing. Im afraid of his reaction. Because when we was together Mark heard rumors that i cheated on him when i really didn't. I am despreate 4 advice. Im 100% sure that Mark is the baby's father.And only I and my new boyfriend Chaz knows this....
2007-01-17 05:21:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would talk to your parents first and let them contact Mark's parents
2007-01-17 05:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope this all works out for you please don't get an abortion Think about it you killing a part of yourself and a gift of God that baby is supposed to be born for a reason and no one has the right to kill that baby whether your a mother or a doctor.
To answer your Q you should tell the father your having his baby only he can decide if he wants to be in the baby's life. If not and If your parents can't help raise the baby put it up for adoption PLEASE don't hurt that baby.
Remember your 14, way to young to be going through this but your also young enough to not make these mistakes again.
Have the Baby And Find GOD I promise once you do you will have peace Pray that's all you can do at this point
2007-01-17 05:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be Honest with Him & Tell Him the Truth it will come out sooner or later & U want 2 be the one 2 tell your Ex he may not like it but oh well life goes on if he doesn't accept it I say U got Yourself a Great Guy with Chaz maybe he'll stay with U 4 the Baby's sake.Good Luck
2007-01-17 05:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you are to young to be a parent but im not gonna razz on ya im here to help you. You need to sit down youre ex and tell him that you are pregnant and that hes the only guy you were with and that the baby is his, he has the right ot know about this and than its in his ballpark to figure out what he wants to do and if he still dosent believe you tell him when the child is born you will have a paternity test taken onthe baby and him and that will prove what you been telling him. Last thing you outta think of going to some sort of parenting program or something and learn what to expect and how to become a parent its alot of work and that baby is gonna be completely helpless get some help from someone youre gonna need it. I want to wish you lotsa luck and email me if you need further guidance. love dee
2007-01-17 05:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by amethyst m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, what will you do being pregnant at such a very young age?? You have to go to your parents and tell them, this way they can help you make important decisions regarding your's and the baby's future. After the baby is born you can have a paternity test done to determine who is the father. Being that Mark is also a minor, if he is the father his parents will have to know also. I know I sound old fashion, but how come so many young kids these days are having sex without realizing the problems they face emotionally, physically, mentally financially when things like this happen. My best to you!
2007-01-17 05:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dam, that sucks hella bad.
I would say not to tell your parents...but your 4 months into your pregnancy! if you were to explore your "options"...good luck, i don't think most clinics allow an abortion going on your 5th month. unless, of course ilegally...but no way.
So your best bet is to get everybody on the same page. First let your parents know (sigh), which is obviously the hardest thing to do. But you should tell them soon, the longer you wait the worse it gets. second, let your ex know (sigh). I know you think well, he's going to react hella crazy! but hell, he should of thought of that when you two had sex! Last, prepare yourself-don't stress about what's going to happen. Believe me, you'll drive yourself up the wall. What's done is done, you need to focus on bigger things; like delivering a healthy baby. And at your age that may indeed be quite a full load- but hey we all make mistakes. The only thing we can do is be smarter and become a better person... I've been down that route so i know. it's not easy but you can do it. stay strong
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2007-01-17 05:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have asked for advise on responsibilty before you got pregnant at 14 years old! If you cant openly talk to a guy about this, or about anything else, why were you having sex with him in the first place!? You need to talk to your parents, and your doctor, and worry about yourself and your pregnancy now. Boyfriends should no longer be your priority. Take care of yourself.
2007-01-17 05:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by renegade_dancer5678 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa... Well. Id first of all, go to his familys home and be upfront with them. They are GOING TO DEMAND a paternity test, and if you are sure its his, then you should GLADLY render it. Also... Just an idea. This child is going to consume your life. YOUR LIFE WILL BE OVER if you keep the baby. If you dont want that to happen, i hope you consider giving up the baby to adoption. So many families want healthy new born babies. Figure out what is right for you, and get your families opinions too because really... you are way too young to be making these decisions on your own.
2007-01-17 05:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really need to talk to your parents. You are too young to be going thru this on your own. Get your Mother's advice on how to handle the situation. You have alot of decisions to make that affect the rest of your life and you don't even know it yet. Believe me telling that exBF is the least of your worries.
2007-01-17 05:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think your life is over. You are 14 years old. And your about to be a mother. And depending on how old your ex is this may be a rape case. I would tell him, and be up front. If he doesn't want to father the child, It not about you, it's about that baby you are going to have. Understand that your relationship with your ex needs to take a back seat to your baby. I just hope you don't mess this babies life up. Good luck.
2007-01-17 05:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him. You can't be mad if he doesn't think it's his. Be real. Take care of yourself. NO MORE SEX!!!! Once the baby arrives, you can have a test done. Other than that honey, you'll have to wait. And if you're not too far along in the pregnancy ... I'd suggest other "options", if you know what I mean. Babies are HARD WORK.
2007-01-17 05:26:38 · answer #11 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋