2007-01-17 05:10:15 · 14 answers · asked by lucky_blue_clover 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am assuming your talking about a single mom. PROPS to you, single parents need to not focus on the opposite sex, but rather raise their children. Once they have grown into adulthood, then jump back into the ring.
Good Luck
2007-01-17 20:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on the men she is meeting. If she is meeting and having dysfunctional, unhealthy relationships, then yes she needs to focus on her child and her childs needs. However, if she is able to have a healthy happy relationship, then a man can help bring love into the family unit.
You can not "make" someone see anything, that has to come from them. But you can illuminate to her what her child needs and how much her choices affect her childs life.
2007-01-17 05:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by snugg_bug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men are important. What the heck are you thinking? You are so wrong do your reasearch before you go given bad advice to people. Look at how many High school drop outs don't have a father, look at the percentage of people on welfare who have no father, look at the number of people in prision with out fathers. Fathers are the glue that creates strong people. Go ahead on with your feminist views and contribute to the problems of this country. Man I cant believe women sometimes. Is it because your Dad was not there for you? IF so why put that on another.
2007-01-17 06:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You most likely cant. She will make her own decisions. Just express to her how you feel. I have a single mom friend that does both very well ( or atleast i feel that way) She only goes out on one night a weekend ( she will take the kids to grandmas right before bed) and she dosnt let her children meet the man she is dating unless they have been dating 6 months or more. Its no good bring people in and out of your childrens life. ANd when she goes out they think its just a fun sleep over at grandmas. Mabey try to get her to balance it a little better. I feel that it is ok for single moms to date and try to find the love of there life. They have the right to be happy too. But just make sure it is balanced. ANd doe snot affect the kids.
2007-01-17 05:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by coliepollie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be she's of the mistaken belief that the child "needs a father-figure".
I knew a woman who did that when she had 2 kids of her own - she'd have a guy move in with her, a couple were abusive towards her, but she'd put up with it because
A) she liked the money he brought in
B) felt she needed a man to be somebody worthwhile.
She didn't change her viewpoint until her kids grew up & moved out - then she stopped having guys move in with her.
Pretty sad.
2007-01-17 05:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend about stuff that could happen to her and her child's relationship in the future if she don't concentrate on the child. Tell her that her child Couldld think little of her in the future. Tell her that someone cou come take her child if she becomes neglectful in the near or long way form now future
2007-01-17 05:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Charla J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think theres anyway you can make her care more for her child. Hopefully she'll figure it out on her own. If she's going out every night then it's a problem. But I think it is okay for her to go out with a guy every once and a while, who knows she might find someone really good for both her and her child.
2007-01-17 05:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anyone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to tell u that some women believe they need to have a man to make their lives complete. you can continue to be a suppotive friend and talk to her and hopefully one day it will sink in. you canalso show her the negative effects these men are having on her child and the relationship between her child and herself.
2007-01-17 05:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately some women feel that they "need" a man and i find it rather pathetic, especially when she can't focus on her own child. You probably can't get her to do anything until she decides to.
2007-01-17 05:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make her realize that, all you can do is tell her how you are concerned and she will make her own choices. one day she will realize and regret it and wished she spent time with her baby. I just feel sorry for the child. Or, you could just stop talking to her, and maybe she will realize.
2007-01-17 05:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by meg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋