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Tough question people should i forgive my fiance for this?
okay yesterday i got a lottery ticket and won $500 okay i dropped it on the way to the store me and my fiance and his friend were walking and looking for it i was upset and gave up after an hour so later on that night i found out my fiance's friend had it the whole time and told my fiance to cash it in he did but didn't take any money his friend did he says he is sorry and it won't happen again but should i forgive him and leave it in the past or leave him for someone else?

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17 minutes ago
his friend only took 19 and dave my fiance had none he said he didn't feel right but he still cashed in the ticket so what should i do?

2 minutes ago
oh my fiances friend is not even my friend at all and never was

Answer 1

Wow! I will let you decide whether to figure him or not. But you definitely need to let him know what a sh*tty thing he did and that you are very upset about it. It is one thing to get you to panic and then 30 seconds later let you in on the joke. But to make you look for it for an hour, and then not tell you until your fiance cashes it in later in the day? That's just cold.

Answer 2

Tell your finance this is terrible behaviour and he made you look like an idiot looking for the ticket for a whole hour. It sounds like your fiance is heavily influenced by his friend and that this friend is not a good person for him to hang out with. If he is genuinly sorry then try to forgive and move on - ask him for more of an explanation as to why he did this and find out if he feels pressured by his friend. You should get the whole 500 back and an apology from the friend. If this is the first time he has done something like this then try to forgive and move on - just set more rules and tell him how much this behaviour hurt you. Also buy something really nice for yourself with the 500 and dont give your fiance a single penny.

Answer 3

This shouldn't be a tough question at all - dump the guy - hard, fast, here, and now.

The fiancee should be an ex-fiancee. If you can get the $500 back, or even part of it, you'll be lucky. If you don't get a dime, you've learned a cheap lesson about him. He cares for the money more than he cares for you. If you marry this guy, you'll have nothing but heartache and grief from him. He already considers you a source of money now - he won't change after the wedding.

And his friend is trouble. Stay well away from him - he'll steal anything that isn't nailed down, including stuff that belongs to your ex-fiancee.

Answer 4

drop him like a sour candy because a real man would have stepped up for his women sounds like you have a punk or boy for what is supposed to be a man ask yourself what would you have done? now just do like nike and do it drop him that makes him in on it no matter how you view it if he was a real man he would have kicked his friend butt or try to and he would have gave you your ticket after knowing his friend had it but here is my thing to you you say you want to drop him for someone else? where is your respect for your self at? seems like you would take some time out to heal and not jump on with the next guy however love and respect is a two way street maybe your fiance feels you are not really committed to him alone good luck

Answer 5

Why would you break up with your Fiance over something like that. I mean you all want to get married and if something that little comes up and you want to break up well then yeah...you need to ask yourself do you really want to be in it for the long run. Relationships are work and marriage is the same thing. You have to work at anything to succeeds and to make things right. You can not want to give up that fast. Just talk to him and if he already apologize let it go. I mean really let it go. Do not hold it over his head or bring it back up later with a " I told you, you should not have been his friend." If you really do not like the guy Yes i would tell your fiance but I would not make it a goal to end their friendship that is not your say.

Answer 6

Your fiance is spineless. He didn't stand up for you. He allowed his friend to take advantage of you. He has shown you where his loyalty lies. What his friend did to you should have ticked him off. Instead he allowed for this to happen with no regards towards you. Leave him and find a man who will stand by you rather than his friends. If you love him and are willing to forgive him then you need to make it clear where his loyalty should be. He said himself he didn't feel right about cashing it in, so why did he?? Peer pressure that bad on him? Nope, he chose to reap your consequence rather this his friends. That should tell you something. Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 7

If your fiance new this was the ticket you were looking for and cashed it for his friend,than it is just as bad as him keeping the cash...His friend should be shot,knowing that this is your ticket and not his, to me he is a thief. You didn't mention if he gave you the money after it was cashed. I would chaulk this up to experience and ask yourself if this is the man(not a man in my book) you want to spend your life with...Think about it,if he did this once,he will do it again..Good luck

Answer 8

Seems to me your fiance is a loser. Who would let his friend cash in a ticket that was clearly yours and not even tell you that they had found it or anything....What do you think marriage is going to be like? If he lied and did this kinda high school sh*t now what makes you think it will change later....

Answer 9

by cashing it without telling you means that your fiance may have considered taking it but guilt overrode. have you any other signs of dishonesty when it comes to finances? if so get out now. ppl only say money is no problem until faced with situations.

when u get married the finances should be a household thing not my money your money, for the most part.

Answer 10

Well the thing is....I'd be leery about the friend coming around, but they both came clean about it, so you need to let it go. I'd be upset too, but the did tell you the truth in the end so, it's really up to you. But you might not want to hang out with the friend anymore, and watch him, because he is obviously a bad influence on your boyfriend. That's something you might have to talk to him about. You don't want his friend to talk him into cheating, then only to have your boyfriend say he felt bad about it!