I have a 1 month old daughter and i live with my boyfriend and his family. ever since my daughter was born, his mother would take her and just wants all day with her. Shes my daughter and i would like to spend some bonding time with her but his mom would just want her all the time and i cant say no to her all the time. Its just that i feel like my daughter might not get used to me and would want her grandma instead of me. I'm afraid of her wanting her grandma more if she gets older and i wont be able to make her happy because shes so used to being with grandma. Will that happen?
2007-01-17 04:58:29 · 9 answers · asked by simpLy_puRe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
dont feel like that it's wonderful grandma won't time please explain to her how you feel and everything should work out you are soooo blessed to have a mom like that
2007-01-17 05:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by day shaun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are her mom. You are very lucky to have that kind of help. It's clear you've already bonded with her so no need to worry that she will bond like that with someone else. I had to work with both my kids within two weeks of having both of them. They went to a sitter which is FAR worse. I wish I had family that could have taken them. Grandmothers get very excited and right now she's cute. Trust me that in just a few months you will be trying to get out of the house and she will scream her head off for you!
2007-01-17 13:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your foot down and learn to say no, it is your time with your daughter. You do not have to be mean about it, but grandparents have a time and a place. It would be a good idea to discuss this with your husband as well so he does not take offense to how you are feeling and what you decide to do to take action.
2007-01-17 13:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by wyllow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're the mother here. take charge of your childs life.. it is all up to you.. if your just afraid of hurting the grandma's feelings then talk to her about it
2007-01-17 13:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by kf17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All kids know who their mamas are. You bond with your baby as soon as she was born, that is a connection that will never be broken.
2007-01-17 13:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must step up & tell your Mother that you need to spend more time with YOUR child.
2007-01-17 13:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one day your daughter will know... just show her pictures of you and her (if you have any).
i also agree with the above answers
2007-01-17 13:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by PirateBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
saying no is easy just practice in the mirror
If you dont learn now you will have a spoiled kid.
2007-01-17 13:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Addie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak up to her, and let her know how you feel.
2007-01-17 13:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋