Commitment. Does the c word really take an effort, or does it really happen all by itself?

Question

I think women need to understand that if a man really likes you commitment happens all by itself, naturally.

Answer 1

I agree! Problem is, most guys take forever deciding if they want to be committed.

Answer 2

Hmm well Im in a situation in which Im dating this guy I really like and he likes me but I want more with him....something exclusive since we have not agreed upon it or talked about it, but I've been holding out in hopes that he'll come around and it'll happen naturally. But how long is too long? I think once a decision is made between two ppl to be exclusive of course commitment takes effort but how is it initially gained? I would hope that your opinion is a good way to go about this, but just know some women get tired of waiting and sooner or later something will get said or some action will be taken.

Answer 3

Initially commitment may happen by itself, but maintaining it over a long period of time could require some work ... people lose faith or go through periods of doubt, loneliness, depression, etc ... and during these times one person or both may look in another direction trying to figure things out - it's during that time when commitment really needs effort, during the weak spots in life.

Answer 4

I think it's a mixture. At first, it kind of falls into place and then after the 'honeymoon' stage wears off, you have to make an effort to be there for your significant other. Everything worth while takes effort. I think men rather coast thru relationships than make an effort to progress into a better couple.

Answer 5

In the beginning when things are shiny and new it takes little to no effort. When you've been together for a while it takes equal effort. When people become used to each other, they tend to take things for granted. Human nature at its best.

Answer 6

it depends on the people. my bf is a very committed guy, and he always has been. my ex on the other hand will never be committed. we were together 5 years, he told me over and over and over how he wanted to be with me and loved me and wanted to get married and have a family, but he cheated more than once (3 times that i know of) and thats not a committed person to me.

Answer 7

It takes effort by both. Women often expect it naturally, which is not reasonable for most men. Men need to avoid complacency with their women.

Answer 8

I think when both parties don't a lot of baggage its a natural process. It does take work and both parties must respect one another and like the person you are with. If you have those two things, then everthing falls into place.

Answer 9

Committment does NOT happen automatically if two people love each other.

There would be NO affairs if this were so.

Committment takes two strong and dedicated people WORKING daily and nightly to make a marriange stable and lasting

Answer 10

I think it's quite effortless if it's right. If it's not right and not meant to be and someone in the relationship forces it, then it's not genuine and it won't work out in the long run.