In the living experience I'm having is that the boyfriend I've been with for 6 months seems to be distant from me as of late. Maybe it's just me or maybe he is getting tired of me I don't know. But I hate being like this because I don't know what's wrong. Maybe he does want to break it off with me, or I should be the one to say goodbye. He is the first person I've truly loved and I would hate to see things end between us because of it. There are so many things it can be but should I let go or wait for him to break my heart. These things often hurt and I like many others are afraid of getting hurt. I just hope and pray that it's nothing and we are back to normal but for the time being it seems like I'm just a bother to him or he's irritated by me.
2007-01-17 04:49:52 · 3 answers · asked by girl_is_depeche 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would he be feeling like he shouldn't be with me anymore?
2007-01-17 05:02:02 · update #1
I've talked to him about how I'm feeling and asked him very bluntly if he was bothered by me being around. He said no and he has been sick very badly and is kinda blaming me for it because after I had my cold sore and he kissed me he has so many things wrong with him that are happening in his mouth like sore and swollen gums inflammation on his tongue and a really bad sore throat. He has assured me he loves me and that right now he doesn't seem like himself and that he's not mad at me or any of that, but I don't get why I'm the one he pushes away the most when I'm the one that's trying to help him.
2007-01-17 05:06:45 · update #2
Don't just assume that it is you or something you did. First you need to ask him what is bothering him, it may be something else. I learned from my boyfriend, when something is bothering him, he seems distant because he wants to figure out how to handle what he is going through. If it is me he tells me. If you are not sure, ask him and if he does have issues with you, then be bold enough to know to let it go. Honestly, it will hurt, but you can only make you happy. This is a woman who cannot be with her true love and I his, because his mother and culture will not permit. I understand where you are. He also could be busy and many things on his mind. You will not know unless you ask, but do it politely.
2007-01-17 04:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by _ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all have you guys talked about how you both feel? have you asked him what is going on why is he making you feel this way? thats the first step. if he is so important to you then you have to atleast try and resove it and talk. communication is the key here. go with your heart and dont walk through life letting people hurt you and make you feel this way. It wont do much for your self esteem. bottling it up inside brings out resentment and hurt.all i can say is if you love him then you will sit down and ask him what is wrong. if he happens to say he doesn't want you then there is no point in being in that relationship, there are more fish in the sea. take care of YOURSELF. but be open with eachother. good luck to you.
2007-01-17 04:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by felinashere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to confront him about him being distant and get him to tell you why. Either he'll apologize and act better or he'll tell you the reason and you'll understand, or the reason is that he doesn't want to be with you anymore. You've got to find out what's going on, otherwise, if you don't, this could drag on and on and only hurt more and more until you're forced to break up with him because you can't stand his distant attitude anymore. Don't let it get that bad.
2007-01-17 05:16:33 · answer #3 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋