When i talk to her and confide in her she is a blabbermouth so i stop telling her just about anything...now she is cranky and snappy and asking me why i am not calling her (she says she hates phone calls) or confiding in her...Any advice...should i just stay home for a while..i really can't stand her right now?
2007-01-17 04:07:34 · 19 answers · asked by ♥queen b♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thank u guys! i mean i love her but really she is making me annoyed ( i am not direspectful to her) she is hard to deal with
2007-01-17 04:11:57 · update #1
oh come on sunshine lol...i treat my mom properly and i respect her
2007-01-17 04:12:44 · update #2
Get out for a while, do something that will be peaceful and relaxing or just go window shopping or something. I know what you mean my mom is a blabbermouth too. You should try to tell her what she does and why you don't call and talk to her that much lately. When the time is right.
2007-01-17 04:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by mda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you could write her a letter and let her know how you actually feel and from there make an attempt to start things fresh
not everyone has the luxury of having a mom to talk to, so its a blessing in itself to have one - I didn't get the impression that you disrespect her - it just sounds like you want her to be a certain way and you can't change people only yourself. If you really don't like her blabbing your business, before talking with her consider the topic and if you want it repeated - Just remember although she is your mom, she is still an individual person that has a personality that may not be to your liking.
Hope everything turns out ok - good luck
2007-01-17 05:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ruby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your mom in person if possible.
Tell her you feel really hurt when she tells someone else what the two of you have talked about. Tell her you want to be able to talk to her, and be able to trust that she will keep your talks private. If she can't/won't do that, then it's time to find a new confidant, and only share less personal, unimportant things with her.
2007-01-17 04:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Nezbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mom is doing that to you then you need to stop talking to her. don't give her any deatils that she can use against you or twist or even gossip about. if she wants to know why you have stopped talking to her, then you need to tell her why. don't be so afraid about how your mom is going to react. from this post i get that you are probably an adult and problaby living on your own since you mentioned that she hates phone calls. your mom has shown that she is not trustworthy and she has nobody to blame but herself. just because she may be famlily doesn't mean that she will be friends. just because she is family doesn't mean that she can treat you like dirt or do what she did. just because she is your mom doesn't mean that you can take this treatment from her. stand up to her. she may be your mom but she doesn't own you nor does she control you.
2007-01-17 04:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to "accidentally" pitch some manure on her! Just kidding - I don't want you to get fired. How about wearing earphones and listening to music. Then when they talk to you just ignore them and if you see them out of the corner of your eye just point to the earphones and say "Sorry! Listening to training tapes!" (or a text book on tape for college or anything!) and go back to what your doing and don't look at them. Your right - there isnt much you can do and sometimes these kind of people are LOOKING for reasons to go complain. Horrible, evil people. Hang in there!
2016-03-13 15:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Mother/Daughter relationship is like no other. Take a brief time out but remember she is your Mom. You only get one and she will become more and more important as life goes on.
2007-01-17 04:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by Rocko Barbella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people don't understand that what you tell them is in confidence. You probably need to specify what is confidential to her vs. what she can speak of freely. Just because you tell her something that YOU think is confidential, doesn't mean that SHE thinks its confidential. If you can establish these rules with her, maybe it will encourage the flow of communication again.
2007-01-17 04:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by sm177y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her, openly and honestly. When she asks, tell her the truth. There's no reason to be mean spirited about it, but she deserves to know how you feel. She may not realize she's coming across that way.
2007-01-17 04:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um you should just when you go out give her a heads up then if its going to be later then you said you might just want to call and just tell her that your staying out later and if shes really bothering you she'll bother you for the rest of your life shes a mother its her job
2007-01-17 04:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a walk and get some fresh air, but remember this...She's your Mother so always respect that!!
2007-01-17 04:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋