i still love my ex i want her back... she broke up with me 3 months ago,, she said she wants to be freinds, but she always rings me, txts ,me emails me.. when ever i am in the local bar, and when she is there she always comes over to me looking for my attention!!! i asked her back about a month ago, i told her i love her, she just said she wants to be freinds, so i just said whatever.. she asked me to go see a movie with her the other day... we went last night it was fun, she said she missed me being with me alot! then today i asked her was, was last night a date or what was it? she said she just wanted to hang out with me, she said it hurts not talkin to me r hangin out with me but she doesnt wana be with me again...this really hurt.. i said i think you do want me, i think your just too afrid to admit it! she said nothing to that then i said forget about everything i said.. that was this morning, since then she has rang me 4 times just to talk bout stuff, she rings more now than ever
2007-01-17 04:05:18 · 19 answers · asked by Dan W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give it up, dude. You are pathetic.
2007-01-17 04:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is so sad that she is acting so funny when she kind of craving for your attention but at the same time dont let you be more then friends with her. Maybe you should move on and stop chansing her. Its so sad that some people leave their happiness behind just so they are sure that they are not lonely. Maybe you just need someone in your life and she is the only hope at this moment. Try to get back to dating....online or in person and see how that goes. Apparently she is not coming back or just not right at the moment so you might as well just try to go out to bars where she is not hangin out and try to relax sit back and talk to someone else. Its the best way to get over relationship that went into nothing. Stop hurting yourself! Do it for yourself and get over her, and if she really want you she will come back one day.
2007-01-17 04:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by BK thang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there sweety!
You and your ex obviously broke up for a good reason or else ya'll would've got bak together by now! The way you've explained everything to be now..i think things are going great now,i don't think u should interfere! Just wait and see what happens.This could be a period where you both learn more about each other and maybe it wasn't possible for ya'll do develop the relationship while dating!So you shouldn't disturb the bonding betwn u+her! And if ya'll do get bak together it'll have a great foundation and if not you'll walk away with a truly awesome friend!
All the best
2007-01-17 04:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sistr P* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would remain her freind, but the question remains why she only wants to be freinds. Is she seeing someone else? Or did you do something to her to make her want to leave? She also may be waiting for you to grow up, so to speak, or change something about yourself that she doesn't like to see you do. If you can remain freinds, that is always the best way to go.
2007-01-17 04:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by au197_0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so available to this "friend". Date other women even if you don't really feel like it. Tell her "I can't hang out with you right now because I want more than just friendship and it hurts me to be around you so much and not be in a relationship with you. This puts the ball in her court. If she wants mare she'll let you know. If not you will be moving on.
2007-01-17 04:13:41 · answer #5 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
k seems to me hun that this girl probably is still undecided as to what she wants, she wants to keep your company and it sounds like she wants you around, but at the same time she dos'nt want the full blown relationship again.
your best bet and i know it seems hard coz you really do want her back is to stop being the run about.
let her know once and for all that you still like her and want to be with her if she says she want to be only friends, say to her well i need to time to get over this relationship then if thats what you really want.
let her know that if she dont want u then yr ok with that but that u need to time to get over that, ask her to respect that and to not call u or txt u until you've been able to get over things.
in a way this is a little test, if she really wants you believe me she will let you know if she really does just wants to friends then you will have to either accept friendship.
2007-01-17 04:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by lisa7777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's playing games. She's into the idea of your still wanting to be with her but she doesn't want the baggage of the former relationship. You're going to put up with it until you meet another girl, which will probably be never because you gravitate back to her. You're probably better off as friends, depending on why you two broke up to begin with.
2007-01-17 04:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should ask her again. Sometime we are afraid that we will get hurt and noone likes to be heartbroken all the time maybe you should be her friend until she decides . She loves you and you love her so just wait because good things come to those who wait
2007-01-17 04:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by sweetmexi2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she wants to see some changes in you. it sounds like she would take you back but she is just waiting to see that you are ready for a relationship with her. now i dont know either of you, but try asking her questions about her life, what her hopes and dreams are maybe try making one happen if it is reasonable. this may be a good trick: stop asking her questions about the relationship. just dont bring up the whole "are we friends or more?" crap for a long time. she may start to see that you have accepted just being her friend and realize she does want you (women want what they think they cant have). or maybe you should just leave her alone totally... it sounds like she enjoys messing with your head. lots of women feel a sense of control over a guy who is hung up on them. i remember a few years ago when i broke up with a guy i was dating, i got him to do whatever i wanted just because i knew he wanted me back. i messed with that poor guys heart so badly (i got him to buy me stuff, do things for me, just had him wrapped around my finger) and that sounds like this is the case
2007-01-17 04:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Blenderhead 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow her lead. Be cool and hang with her.. if she wants to be friends then do that. The best case for you, it sounds like, is spending time with her right? So who cares what the title is? Who cares if you are "friends" or "dating"? The end result is that you are together..
See where it leads and don't sweat the small stuff..
2007-01-17 04:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by neodem 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She just need time to see if this is where she wants to be or she might be falling for you hard and is very confused. Just give her time and always be there for her. But don't give up your life date other girls if she sees you with another girl if she is completely over you then it won't bother her but if she's not then she will get back with you ASAP.
2007-01-17 04:11:04 · answer #11 · answered by Minnie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋