any military wifes here whom's husbands are deployed to iraq?

Question

and how do you feel about it? i know not to much info can be shared here or anywhere on the internet concerning our troops because of their safety.i just want to know your feelings how and how you deal with it

Answer 1

My fiance is deploying in March, 9 days before my Birthday, I found out this morning. I don't know how I will deal with it, but I do feel the sure heartache and worry already. I plan to keep myself busy, with my 3 kids, and make a habit of going to the gym everyday until he comes back. Then he will have a hot body (lol) to come home to!

Answer 2

My hubby has been gone for almost 3.5 months and is due back anywhere from August to October. The first couple weeks after he left were really hard for both me and him. But eventually, I just accepted the fact that I can't do anything about him being gone and neither can he.

Also, I just got used to him not being around...I adjusted and adapted to it which has made it a lot easier.

I try not to think about the danger he is in because it will only stress me out even more. When he first left, that was all I could think about. Now, if I allow my brain to wander in that direction, I stop myself and think about something else.

I countdown each and everyday...the countdown we are focusing on now is the one to his R&R. We have about two months left. Then after he gets back to Iraq, we will only have 4-6 months. I am sure once the end of the 365 days nears, I will feel like it went by so fast.

But honestly, people will tell me to keep busy and get a job and find a hobby, but what has really helped me is being able to talk to my husband everyday. In the 3.5 months that he has been gone, there have probably only been 5 days where I didn't get to hear his voice. He's got internet in his room, so we talk through webcam and it makes me smile to see his face. It makes me smile to see him smile. :) We have to help one another get through the deployment.

And don't listen to that jerk that commented before me...he has probably been cheated on and is very bitter. Women from all walks of life cheat...not just military wives. I for one, have never cheated, never plan on cheating, and never will cheat on my husband. Those that do cheat are weak and don't truly love their spouse in the first place.

Answer 3

It's hard. You learn a lot about yourself during a deployment. Deployments change your relationship, they change your deployed spouse, they change you, they change your kids. They change a lot of things.

We did sign up for this. But knowing they CAN go, and having them gone are two different things. When reality smacks you in the face, that they are somewhere that they could get hurt, that they are gone, and are going to stay gone for a long time, it's hard.
It breaks a lot of marriages. Miltary life has some good points. I got to live in Germany for 3 years. See some of Europe. I've met lots of interesting people, and seen things I probably wouldn't have seen and lived places I probably wouldn't have lived if it weren't for my husband being in the military. But I've also gone thru most of a pregnancy by myself. We found out my husband was going to Bosnia 2 weeks after I found out I was pregnant and he didn't get back until 2 weeks before our son was born. I counted us lucky that he was able to get back for our child's birth. That doesn't always happen.
There were days it was really hard. Days I had to put his pictures away because it hurt so much to see them because I missed him so much.
You worry. You know they aren't as safe as they are at home. You know they can get shot, or step on a mine, or some nut job can come in and blow things up. It never goes out of your head completely. You don't necessarily think about it constantly, but every news story, you wonder. It's always there. And you don't realize just how much you missed them until they are standing there back in arms reach.
My husband is actually here right now. But he's been deployed before, and we have friends who are down range right now. Every one of the people deployed is someone's child, spouse, parent, family. When you hear about someone getting hurt or killed over there, remember, this is a family that has been devasted. I think that is what we seem to lose sight of very quickly. Over 3000 families have been permanently damaged by this war.
I think we need an exit strategy NOW. I don't think we need to just leave tomorrow. Things were left undone by BUsh 1. That doesn't need to happen this time around.
That said, I do think we need to be moving our happy little butts out of there much more quickly than we are. I think we will probably be moving out of there or be out completely, before the 08 elections. If there is not an exit strategy in place by then, the Republicans aren't going to have an easy time of it during the elections. Bush has to know that. I think the midterms were a wake up call for the president. He seemed shocked at how they went. Politics and war are all intertwined. I just want our people to finish what needs to be finished and get OUT of there and home safely.

Answer 4

Yes. He LOVES it and I support everything that is going on. Some of the stories he's told me about the Iraqi people is so touching. They're are EVIL ones, but the GOOD ones are very afraid.

Answer 5

mine is over there opsecs says be careful what you share. some days are better than others it sucks all the time pray for them all to return home safely

Answer 6

I love my soldier!! 54 days and a wake up, hooah!!