Other approaches to begin disciplining toddlers...?

Question

I have 1 year old twins and they test the limits like most kids. But slapping their hands and giving them a swat on the butt is not being effective. Even if I put toys in front of them instead they will still go back and do what they were told not to do. over and over again. Suggestions please. Kids will not be perfect but I'm afraid if I don't start to break it now then they will be out of control later.

Answer 1

Tell them what they can do. If they continue to go to whatever you told them not to do them put the child in his/her crib so you can take a break.

When you see the child behaving they way you want him/her to then praise praise praise.

Answer 2

They are only 1 yr old, their comprehension hasn't developed yet, so they don't understand what you want. Slapping fingers and giving them a swat, make them not trust you, because they don't make the link to the things. It just doesn't make sense to them, they probably barely can walk.
When kids are 1 one their adventure of discovering starts. The fact that cup on the table falls over when they push it, is a discovering, it's not that they do that to purposefully mess up your house. Throwing a block of a toy that falls down and makes noise is a discovery, not a violent act, to destroy your thing. When you have kids that age, remove everything from your living room or kitchen that can be discovered by them and you don't want to destroy or is dangerous to them.
Having two running around is a hand full, but it's a normal development of growing up.
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Good luck.

Answer 3

It takes patience and many repititions to teach toddlers their boundaries. Be firm and let them know by your facial expression and your voice that you are serious and not playing. Be consistent and they will get it.

If they are getting into something they shouldn't have, redirection is a good idea. "Not for babies" or "owie" or "hurt you" or "sharp" or "hot" etc. are all good phrases to use INSTEAD of the word "no." If you say no too often, they don't really hear it.

Another thing that works amazingly well with this age group.....if they are holding something that they shouldn't have, hold out your own hand and say in a totally pleased voice, "oh, thank you!" as if the child meant to give it to you all along. They LOVE to please and will usually hand right over as long as you act like it was there idea all along.

If it is something that would devastate you if it got destroyed, put it away or put it out of reach. You need to make the home child friendly so they can explore and learn. Make sure things are baby-proofed.

Answer 4

They are still babies and they are testing their boundaries and the limits of your patience. At this age they still don't understand the meaning of "no" or they think it's a game. You can't expect them to understand you on your level yet.

What worked with my very curious child was to set boundaries for her using child safety gates. This way she was limited to whatever room I was in, and I moved all my breakable items up high or out of the room. They need to be free to move around without hurting themselves or each other. They won't be out of control if you just let them be little boys. Saying "no-no" hundreds of times will get old quickly, and spanking them won't work because they don't understand what they have done wrong.

Answer 5

Kids are very clever and always like to test the limit of adult. So let say if you want him to eat, don't ask him to do so immediately, try to sit in front of him, face to face and tell him you need to go to eat 5 minutes later. Otherwise, you are not allow to eat that meal anymore. 5 minutes later, bring him to the table by yourself hand by hand. Let hime feel hungry one or 2 meal and he will clever next and he know your limit.
You can also encourage him by sticker, if he listen to your command, you give him certain number of sticker. If he is just 1 year old, he may just like to play with sticker. If he is older like 2 or 3, earn certain sticker can exchange certain book/toy.
Don't beat the kids, it just make thing worst. Unless they want to do something very danger, then one hard beat will remind him not to do so.
good luck

Answer 6

In her fifth month I perceived my daughter do something not because she wanted to but because I had told her not to. (the decision rests with perception -as Aristotle said) And so I punished her. I recall so vividly challenging my daughter to assist at discipline. I said "what do I need to do so I won't see THAT again???? She never did answer, but I didn't. It is a matter of communicating, and somehow framing it so it is us against a problem, rather than me against you. Perhaps they are wanting your attention, and bad attention is better than none. Read THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman. Be firm, be consistent, and be loving. Give them your undivided attention. (Not all the time of course, but part of the time. Try to find games you all can enjoy playing)

Answer 7

I know this sounds crazy but watch Super Nanny on TV. She is getting amazing results from real couples at home. She doesn't spank, she uses a naughty spot for a time out. She also is big on having a schedule for day to day activities. Also she says the number one thing is following through. Good Luck.

Answer 8

If uncertain, take him out! continuously err on the fringe of warning while it is composed of your newborn's properly being. Your son shouldn't show concern in the direction of his caregivers... ever. Does your daycare have cameras interior the room? if so clarify to the director what befell and notice if that's appeared at, yet do it quickly, some places tape over previous tapes after a definite quantity of time. i might take no possibilities while it got here to my newborn's therapy, there are too many sturdy daycare centers available. Suspected abuse or ignore is a deal breaker, and could be sufficient grounds to permit you of your daycare settlement. If uncertain touch your newborn protective centers on your area and ask if those are grounds to interrupt the daycare settlement. wish all works out properly, bless you and your little guy. EDITED to characteristic; A threatening gesture made in the direction of a newborn with the intent to frighten into submission is an abusive act, especially in a daycare project. they might desire to apply redirection to get their element throughout the time of, not concern.

Answer 9

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Slapping or spanking is nowhere near effective. You have to learn how to deal with them by using methods that make sense to their little brains. Your adult logic is not effective with a child.

The book states it's effective for kids starting at age 2, but we implemented many of the techniques when our son turned one year old. My brother and his wife began using 1,2,3 Magic with their boy/girl twins at age one and their kids are the best behaved in their 2nd grade class! And yes they are in the SAME class.

Please don't listen to people that encourage hitting or slapping. It just teaches them that hitting/slapping is how to resolve conflict.

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Answer 10

Hitting is never the answer. Try giving them a time out instead. Tell them no in a firm voice and after a couple times if they don't listen put them in the naughty chair.