my dad wants me to move in with him but i dont want to becuase my mom has asthma and my grandma needs help not medical just around the house im just worried what will happen to them while im gon my dad misses me alot and i want to spend more time with him well my mom has just gotten through a abusive relationship and thats most of my worries plus she fractured her anckle almost the whole bone came out i was there so its basicaly a choice between mom and dad or just not that simple please help me?
2007-01-17 03:47:39 · 5 answers · asked by Tim5516 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that everyone needs to leave you alone and stop telling you they miss you and what not. This is to much pressure for a kid to deal with. Make up your mind by yourself. No one know what YOU need to do, but you. Don't listen to anyone but yourself. Don't worry if you think you will be hurting your Mom or Dad's feelings if you tell one of them you want to live with the other. They will understand they are your parents and should want the very best for you. Good luck, and don't stress out about this, take some time to decide what you want.
2007-01-17 03:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're old enough to operate a computer and log onto yahoo answers, you are old enough to make your decision. You need to tell them to stop the tug-of-war and grow up b/c it sounds to me like you're being the only adult here.
Stay with mom and grandma - they need you right now. Work something out during summer to stay with your dad for a couple of weeks, maybe even a month and do nothing but guy stuff. Remind him you are a man you have responsibilities - Deep down he'll be proud of you.
2007-01-17 04:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by redslippers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what your harts tells you too. You need to think where you feel more confortable and more at home. Ofcourse you want to help your mom and grandma, but if you want to see your father do it. There are other people who can help your mother and grandma and they wont hold it against you if you go to your father. You can always go for a couple of day/weeks/months and come back to your mother and grandma and stay there a while and go back. I know you dont want to herd any one of them, but you need to think about yourself. What you want to do and not how you wil make them feel. If you talk to them how you feel and that you feel that you have to choose between the two of them, they wil try to make things we easyer for you. Your young and have your life to live and need to think of your future so do whats best for you, because your parents would want that.... i hope i answer your question and helped you.. good luck...
2007-01-17 06:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by mr nice guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your so caring and have a loving heart...well yourself will make a decision in the end but as a friendly advice, tell your dad about your feelings, i know he`ll understand you...and besides you have your grandmother who needs your help too, as what you have said, so just try to make a time to vand visit your dad while you were with your mom and grandma, im really sure, he will understand your mom`s and your situation! good luck!
2007-01-17 03:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by tommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need to be there for your mother u r being a great help just visit your dad more often.
2007-01-17 14:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋