i have just found out that im pergnant for the third time. My boyfriend is adament he doesnt want any more children and dead against it. I dont know wether to tell him and know he will proberbally stay just because i am pregnant or leave him, or talk to him about having another child without actually telling him im pregnant and see what happens. What should i do?
2007-01-17 03:47:20 · 30 answers · asked by sarah_652468 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im pregnant should i leave him?
i have just found out that im pergnant for the third time. My boyfriend is adament he doesnt want any more children and dead against it. I dont know wether to tell him and know he will proberbally stay just because i am pregnant or leave him, or talk to him about having another child without actually telling him im pregnant and see what happens. What should i do?
I have used birth contro; and it hasnt worked and i dont believe in abortion
2007-01-17 03:56:15 · update #1
Leave him. He is probably tired of supporting you any way.
2007-01-17 03:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
1. Be a role model for women as to why they should not get pregnant with 'boyfriends'.
2. You're in the situation. Deal with it. Tell him and see how he reacts. If he actually leaves, then he isn't someone you should have been sleeping with in the first place.
2007-01-17 03:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A) use birth control next time.
B) yes.. you have to tell him. The child is as much yours as his and it is only fair.
You have to communicate as a couple and that means being honest about what's up with the baby. If you end up breaking up because of it, then at least he was able to be in on the decision..
2007-01-17 03:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by neodem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the biggest question is do YOU want another child? whether he wants one or not does not matter..its your body that goes through the pregnancy. if you do, then keep it and talk to him. if he still doesn't want another, then he will either stay or leave...simply put.
if you do not want another child, do not abort the baby...instead put the baby up for adoption. tell him your plans and he will probably stay. then SOMEBODY (preferably him since he has already stated he doesn't want anymore kids) in this relationship needs to get snipped cause together you both have some strong eggs and/or swimmers...lol
2007-01-17 03:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is always best to be honest with him. After all you did not make this baby by yourself. Instead of putting the whole birth control issue on you, he needs to take responsibility and maybe get a vasectomy, so this won't happen again.
2007-01-17 03:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on how you feel. Have you thought of breaking up with him before this whole pregnancy thing? You're going to have to tell him either way! Tell him and talk it out! Definately no abortion! If you guys dont want him/her give him/her up for adoption. Plenty of people want babies and cant have them.
2007-01-17 03:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him you are pregnant of course.
for the fact that he doesn't want anymore kids does not make you leave him.
try to let him know that the baby is already in the making.
i think after this you should try using a family planning so that you don't get pregnant again.
2007-01-17 03:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by bright 247 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, not all men leave! I had my first daughter out of wedlock and that bastard refused to leave yet did cheat on me and abuse me...he purely left while he by twist of destiny hit my daughter (he replace into arrested). It replace into undesirable yet grew to become out sturdy interior the tip, I moved on and married a astounding guy that's a superb father for my little female and we are actually awaiting #2 (yet another female). All men are different...it takes a real guy to stay and raise a newborn and be a kin! It additionally takes a real guy to not abuse his kin!! maximum that leave are scared...I propose teenagers are actually not consumer-friendly to enhance! They take money, time, self-discipline...you could desire to continuously positioned them earlier your self in each and every thing! i'm married with a 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous and yet another on the way...I actual have help yet i could be the 1st to assert that's not any much less stressful than while i replace into single with my daughter. you will nonetheless might desire to hassle with regards to the fees yet you besides mght might desire to make beneficial your infants are chuffed (i don't propose smash them)! they're purely scared! sturdy success! EDIT I additionally agree that many females human beings run...many many many females human beings! i know a variety of of single dads yet maximum women human beings run by having abortions and guy are abortion quotes severe! in case you won't be in a position to cope with being a discern...or the thought which you will possibley finally end up a single discern then you truly all might desire to end having intercourse!! intercourse is meant for duplicate not excitement! once I had my first, i did not decide to marry the jerk and that i'm SOOOOOOOO chuffed i did not. I have been given a real blessing out of a undesirable element yet my daughter has no concept that her daddy isn't her genuine daddy...do you recognize how lots which will harm her while she is sufficiently previous to renowned? I hurts me to think of roughly it yet makes me experience extra advantageous to renowned a guy got here alongside and took on finished accountability while he did not might desire to. What i'm saying is, make a dedication earlier making plans for a kin (speaking from journey). i comprehend it does not propose you men will stay mutually yet a minimum of there is extra of a huge gamble!
2016-10-07 07:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and do what's best for you and your child. Congrats by the way. Don't let worrying about what he will do ruin this joyous time for you. I'd just be straight forward with him. Look you know the fooling around we've been doing well hun u done knocked me up again. Just tell him like that plain and simple. If he don't like it tuff. If he leaves you for that take him for everything he's worth and get your child support out of him. That baby is his too you know. Make him take responsability for it. Don't lie to him please just be honest. And take care of yourself for your baby's sake. Congrats.
2007-01-17 03:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just be honest with him. It would only make him angry if you didn't tell him. Don't jump the gun by leaving him, people say they'd do something in a certain situation, but once they're in it, they usually do something else. He might not have the reaction you're expecting, but he does deserve to know.
2007-01-17 03:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well dont lie to him thats the first thing not to do whats he gonna think when u get all round in the tummy dont wait till he asks u questions tell him now and if he dousnt want another u can get an abortion.
2007-01-17 03:53:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋