She recentely found me on myspace, and we've been talking for a couple of days now. We were together for 1.5 years when we were both 17. We're now 26, and we arranged to meet up on Saturday after we both told eachother we still had feelings even after all that time. She told me today that she's still living with someone who she's been with for 4 years, but the relationship hasn't been working for ages now, they don't sleep in the same rooms etc.... and she's willing to kick him out of the flat for good.
Should I get back with her? I've been in the other situation before where I got dumped for someone else and it was like torture so I know how it feels, and who's to say she wouldn't do the same to me?
BUT I really do have strong feelings for her, and she was the first person I ever loved so I'd like to have a go at it.
What do you guys think?
2007-01-17 03:45:43 · 22 answers · asked by kris d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say if it feels right go for it BUT be prepared to be disappointed. Everyone remembers their first love as something great but relationships like this rarely work because both of your expectations will be to high. By all means have the casual meeting and take things from there but I think within time (maybe in the first meeting) you will see how much different you both are and things that have happened inbetween the last 10 years will get in the way. Best of Luck
2007-01-17 03:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation 10 years ago. 2 yrs together and 7 apart. I took the chance and things could not have worked out better. we both did some growing up during our time apart. We have been married for 7 years and have 2 great kids. Life is good.
I would suggest being careful seems she is attached at the time. I would watch how things go with her and her other to see if they are really thru before getting involved. You don't want to be put through that mess, nor would you want it done to you.
Good Luck to the both of you...
2007-01-17 04:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-12 03:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very hard to decide...
10 years is huge. She is totally a different person from 17 to 26.
Was it her who dumped you? If so, you might be facing the problem again... She's unhappy with her current partner right? She might be just looking for an excuse to get rid of him...
But of course, you would know when you meet her on Saturday, if she's really interested in you again or not.
...I'd say yes. But she might be looking for someone to settle with. Think about that carefully!
2007-01-17 03:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about why the relationship ended in the first place are those reasons still there. Are you strong enough to give it a chance and have it all go wrong???
2007-01-17 03:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by janetlouise24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to kick him out first before you proceed any further. Your feelings are true, but are hers? She could just be in a rough spot and could be looking for someone else to move on to. She needs to show you something for you to proceed. Its actions that count not words. She might be confused and I would say start off as friends first.
2007-01-17 03:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both love each other then that's all that matters, I would say give it another try, and if it doesn't work out well at least you tried, I believe the only time we really live is when we love :)
2007-01-17 03:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by melimel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow your hart. if you both still like each other then just go for it. If you don't, you will probably be saying to yourself, for the rest of your life "WHAT IF". If it doesn't work out then you can say that we tried and you could end up being good Friends. just take things slowly and see what happends.
2007-01-17 04:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU only live once go for it, it isn't every day that you get a second chance to be happy like that so stop thinking about it 2 much.
2007-01-17 03:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by hatfieldnomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋