met this girl back in June. She had a BF. (now..dec 19th 06' has been with him a year) she stated he cheated when they first started but she trusts him now and said he hasnt done it since. Anyway. We connected in a flash..the same interests weird attitudes, and warm hearts. We started seeing eachother alot..led to kissing dinners and eventually intimacy. all this time he was away in costa rica she was here. she said when she goes back to school with him that she has to see her feelings. We ended up falling in love and told eachother.She told me in september that the right thing to do is stay with him cause she loves him to. from sept till now we still talk alot and when she comes home we meet up and hang out. she still feels the same and so do i and we've kissed and and still very close. SHe decided if we're to remain close to not act on our impulses. Cuz we mean alot to eachother. she made a promise if anything happens one day. we'll be together.
2007-01-17 03:42:14 · 23 answers · asked by V P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep in mind she made her decision already to stay with him cause she loves him aswell...
But we both cant let go of eachother..
2007-01-17 03:42:40 · update #1
stay the way you are but also talk to other people. this is the consequence of doing something negative. dont give up tho, and dont get seriouse with anyone for a while..karmas a *****.
2007-01-17 03:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I think. You're too easy. What about you?
You seriously need to take a step back and be more selfish. Don't tell her you're doing it. Just do it. Call less, seem preoccupied when she calls.
Right now, you're fallen into a situation where you're what Chris Rock once referred to as "D*** in a jar". In case of emergency, she can break the glass and have someone to fall back on.
She's using you bro. You're her security blanket.
Personally, I think you should get away from this whole situation because no good can come of it. I think there's a lot for you to learn from it though.
She chose him over you because he doesn't need her. If she left, he'd probably forget about her by the next day. She has to chase him, to keep his attention. He's the alpha.
You're the beta. You're running after her, doing what she wants, being there when he hurts her. But the only reason she gives you the time of day... is because she needs reassurance when he won't give it to her. If you want her, you need to change your approach.
When you use a string to play with a cat, you move the string, it dances... and the cat goes crazy chasing after it.
But if you drop the string on the floor, the cat gets bored and walks away.
You need to be the dancing string. Right now, you're the limp string and she's not interested.
2007-01-17 03:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its perfectly possible to be in love with two people at the same time, so I don't think she's necessarily lying about that. BUT my friend, you are being played. If you allow this girl to believe she can keep you hanging on as "back up" in case things go wrong with her boyfriend, then she will. Harsh as it sounds, its nice to have abit of variation, and if I could get away with doing this to a girl perhaps i would. But I'd never behave this way to someone I had real respect for, I don't think anyone would. If she thinks this is acceptable then even if you did get with her, how would you know she wasn't on the look out for other guys. In fact you'd know she was. There's a wealth of beautiful girls out there who are happy to stick with one man and they'll probably be better people too. I suggest you give her a choice: break it off with the other guy and get with me now, OR nothing will happen between us. That way, whatever she says, at least she'll respect you and learn she can't use guys like toys.
2007-01-17 03:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well From my point of view it does not seem like she really know wants she wants at this time. She loves him but has a connection and love for you too. I'm not trying to be mean but I think she is playing you both. If she was mature enough she would stick to one man and not be yo-yo-ing herself between the two of you. Love is not a game nor is playing with someones emotions. My advice to you is if she really and has made her choice to be with him then, let her go for good. No contact what so ever. If she then finds out one day that she made a mistake and comes back to you then go for it if your heart still feels the same for her. You are only hurting yourself right now and I know how much it will hurt to not have any contact with her but do it and maybe she will miss you more than you think. I hope it works out for you good luck too.
2007-01-17 03:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! umm.... well she sounds like her feelings are all tyed up! i think you should let her choose between u or that other guy. u cant just keep being an extra! As much as you love her you have to make a decision! Or are u going to be like that for ever? NO!! think about it! and u know something if she decides to stay with the other guy then just get over her! those kinds of girls aren't worth it! and it might be hard and u might think that nothing in the world would help u get over her but just try! think of only positive things! soon u'll find a girl that will love u, just u and no other guy!
2007-01-17 03:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by love isn't everything! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why settle for being second banana VP. Get on with your own life and try and find someone whom you can share all of the good and bad things in life with and will be there for you when you need her most (and at all times). Sounds like you and she had a fling, but that was it, and she has made her decision where she want to spend her emotions. Why wait for a chance that something may happen and she might want to lean on you at that time. Besides if she was unfaithful to this other guy, whom she supposedly loves, who's to say that she wouldn't be unfaithful to you also. Move on and best of luck.
2007-01-17 03:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she loves him so much why is she having "kissing dinners which led to intimacy" with you? If she loves him how could she "fall in love" with you. Sounds like to me she wants her cake and she wants to eat it too. My advice to you would be to find someone who is nmot attached because one of two things are going on with her A. Shes a pysco and is going to lead you into trouble
B Her BF is going to go psyco and then what........
I as a woman sometimes dont understand women these days...
2007-01-17 03:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by sweetmexi2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you just have to let her go. You should have no contact with her whatsoever. It will be hard at first, but you will save yourself continued heartache in the future. Besides haven't you heard, "once a cheater, always a cheater..."? If she's cheating on her current boyfriend then chances are if she did leave him she'd end up cheating on you too.
2007-01-17 03:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy3100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 08:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to not put any more feelings into this. Accept the fact the she is having her cake and eating eat. Sex is just going to complicate things so I suggest that you guys not do it like she states. Just remain to be close friends with her and know that she holds the power. I don't think it's fair to you or her mate but hey who am I to judge. Good luck.
2007-01-17 04:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude listen to what you r saying. you are wanting a girl who is in a relationship. first there is no trust between any of you. she has cheated on her boyfriend with you and cheated on you with her boyfriend. go find someone who is single and you trust. there is no way even if you to get together that it will work. sad to say but you are better off with someone who doesn't cheat. remember, once a cheater always a cheater. you may love her but she does not have clue what she wants
2007-01-17 03:50:17 · answer #11 · answered by bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋