I have a 5 year old girl who hates school and never wants to go to school?

Question

she hates school and everything about it she is very smart homework is not the problem i need help to no what will make her be good in school

Answer 1

I had that problem too when my son was 5-6yrs old.I would take him to school and he would run back out screaming and all of that. I think it was the idea of being separated from mommy. But everyday we did this and he finally started to want to go. Now he is 12yrs. and loves school. And gets A's and B's. Be patient, it will all work out.

Answer 2

The problem with children who don't want to come to school is that it is a place where there are rules which are implemented properly and consistently. A place where children has to give and take, a place where the teacher is supposed to be a leader and children follows, a place where a child must know how to react with one another, ...so forth and so on, a lot of expectation,etc...etc... In short, a new place and environment not conforming to their own wishes,like home.
At home, a child can practically do everything no holds bar. She receives no negative reactions, she does as she wishes and mummy is always beside her to console and approve of every thing she makes and she is the center of attraction.
School is a different world compare to home. My advice, is to see your girl's teacher and tell her what your daughter's feelings are. I suppose if you inform her, she will take notice of this and will act the possible for your daughter to be more comfortable in her class, likewise she can be a great help for your child to be at ease in the school.

Answer 3

make sure she isnt having a social problem in school first, like being picked on and things that would make her stear clear of school. also talk to her teacher and say she is having a hard time wanting to come here and see if she may know why. my daughter will be going to school next year and for as long as she has been born i have been instilling in her why she needs her education and why everything she says she wants to be when she grows up needs one, and how school is so much fun because you get to get away from mommy, but maybe thats it, if your child was in daycare her whole life, she probably doesnt care for the social interaction, maybe also you need to help her make some friends, throw a little party, get to know the parents, have her at least want to go to school everyday so she can see her friends, and then go from there.

Answer 4

When I was younger I had the same problem my problem was I was too advanced for my class I ended up getting put in private school at first i did not want to go but then I got in and really liked it plus it helps with your child's future you should try it or another problem is she could be getting bullied by other young children which would also be a good reason to try private school! Good Luck! ;-) you should give private school a shot and if she is too advanced you should let her get in the GT program (Gifted and Talented) It really helps! ;-)

Answer 5

At five years old usually the only reason why a child does not want to go to school is because they are being picked on, try to see if you can figure out the problem, get your child to talk to you about school and maybe she will let you know.

Answer 6

I have a 5 year old daughter myself whose in Kindergarten too. A couple of things could be the issue.

Have you spoken to her teacher? Is she socializing properly with the other kids?

You said homework is not the problem is it too easy for her? Is she not being challenged?

Did she stay at home with a parent or did she go to daycare?

Has anything else changed in your home? New babies?

When my daughter says she doesn't want to go to school it's usually because she's had a disagreement with one of her peers. Or her peers are teasing her. It's usually something social. School is a big adjustment for our little ones. hang in there. She'll get it soon. keep in close contact with her teacher he/she can probably shed more light on the problem.

Answer 7

try a star chart!!!! make her decorate it herself and for every day she goes to school put a star on the chart when she fills up so many days which u would decide treat her to a trip to the park or a small gift she may find this exciting she may not but its worth a try also find out if she is being bullied its unusual for a child so young not wanting to go to school. or maybe she just misses her mom let her take something of urs to school with her like a picture to keep in her bag.

Answer 8

Have you visited the school when she's in class? Maybe the school just isn't a good fit. Have you explored other options (other schools in the area whether they be public, private, charter, etc) Have you asked her what about school she doesn't like? (and she may be too young to be able to pick out one or two things, but it's worth a shot)

Answer 9

I had the same problem, I think you should talk to your kid and see what's going on...maybe she's bored and not being challenged. I ended up putting him in private school, you should check out your options to see if she fits better in another school.

Answer 10

You need to find out why. Is she being "bullied" or "picked" on by other students? Does she have a good teacher? Does she like the teacher? If not, then maybe you can have her transferred to another teacher that she does like.
Good Luck