his family tells me he never talked marriage or love until he met me... is that enough to turn a player, honorable!!??
2007-01-17 03:38:01 · 25 answers · asked by coco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can a leopard change its spots? Well, it's not that bad but, in truth, the way someone is before they get married is generally the best that they will be. So take a good look at the whole package before you buy into anything he is selling.
2007-01-17 03:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is possible that he will choose not to do certain things for the woman he loves but usually it is not enough and tons of girls make the mistake of thinking oh he wont do it to me he loves me i'm different or were different! Yea right, but the good thing here is your asking about it although i'm sure you'll just go full steam ahead anyways. Ok the point he can change alittle bit if he wants to but the thing here is if this is the first time he's even considered changing then its the first time he's gonna learn anything about it, what i'm trying to say is it usually takes several wrong turns before they get it right, but I hope in your case once is enough and I suggest when he screws up which he probably will you must MUST make him pay consiquence(sp) or he'll have no reason to think twice the next time if there is one, if he gets away with it he'll keep on more than likely and listen every relationship goes thru things and if you didnt forgive them you'd never have a lasting relationship it wouldnt be possible if people werent willing to work together and forgive, anyways good luck Kim
2007-01-17 03:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that all the change you are talking about? Then this is a good thing. It's a no brainer. Go for it.
If you are talking about fundamental change about a guy then you are in for disappointment - like heavy excessive drinking, staying drunk at all times, controlling behaviour etc.. - that sort of thing. It does not change and it will continue well into marriage.
If he always has been a player and becomes honourable after meeting you, there is something here. You are to be complimented........!!
You will find it hard put to find someone - anyone - today who has not played. So, ignore that part.
2007-01-17 03:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anybody can 'change their stripes'. Instead of expecting someone to change, you should go after someone with the qualities that you like!
If I was off topic a little bit, sorry :P Your guy might be talking about marriage, but deep down he still might be a player, even after you get married. Some people don't see marriage that way.
2007-01-17 03:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Feeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be enough, but just be on guard too he could be saying all that to get you in bed. If you really want to know his true feeling watch his actions they speak louder that words. Give it time to if he does propose you want to make sure that he is really only going to be with you. Especially if he was a player. Keep communication open and enjoy each others friendship it is great base to build your relationship on. Good luck and I hope he is an honorable man now that he had a special girl, You.
2007-01-17 03:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man (that is any male over the age of 25 or so) generally cannot change his ways. As to your second question, it is possible that he does indeed want to marry you since he never mentioned it before. But if he has a history of cheating with his other long term relationships, be wary.. But the key is to communicate with him as much as you can.. and that doesn't mean just talking.. it means being honest about the way you feel all the time.
2007-01-17 03:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by neodem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it takes the right person for everybody, plus it just comes a time in life when you start to be a little bit more serious. So secretly pat yourself on the back don't feed to much into it that will jinx everything. Gone brush your shoulders off! Good luck and remember what ever you are doing continue to do it.
2007-01-17 03:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
he may have not talked about marriage with his family. maybe they don't know that side of him. but i don't believe that you can change a man. it doesn't matter who you are. i believe that a man has a kind of woman that he want to marry and if you match that particular kind the you are the one for him. so i say that you had what he was looking for in a woman.
2007-01-17 03:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have taken psychology and you would be suprised what strange things will change a person. in my opinion god gave us three things in life, faith, hope, and love. well the greatest is love. i know that wen i first saw my gf. something happened inside of me. i continued to change into a better person as a whole. my character even changed. my old thoughts never cross my mind anymore. i think that we change without even knowing that it is happening. just doing things that we want to impress you or flatter you, those things become habits for us and we kind of get into that groove of things, and we don't realize it until we think about what all has changed in us sense we were younger.
2007-01-17 03:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by get er done 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anybody can change... if they want to.
And yeah, sometimes a guy can meet just the right girl... to make him not want other girls any more. Only her.
Trust me about this, I just met a girl who makes me feel that way myself. Now... if I could just work out this DC to NY thing with her. Heheheh.
2007-01-17 03:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋