Most of my friends are lesbians and sometimes they want to influence me which i dnt like it, nd becus of that my fiance doesnt talk to me for the past four months becus of the kind of friends i move with. pls help me
2007-01-17 03:28:34 · 23 answers · asked by nanevaluv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're uncomfortable with it to the extent that YOU feel you should not be around your friends, then I can see avoiding them, but not just because your fiance wants you to avoid them.
2007-01-17 03:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If these women are really your friends, they will respect your lifestyle choices, just as you respect teirs, without putting any pressure on you or trying to get you to switch teams. I think your fiance has a right to feel threatened by them. After all, a woman's friends are very important influences in her life. Is there any reason why your fiance feels so insecure about your relationship with your friends, though? I mean, have you given him any reason at all to believe that you ever would leave him for a woman or anything like that? If not, he needs to get over it and respect you and your friends. However, if you are feeling uncomfortable with your friends trying to influence you, you need to have a talk with them and let them know that you don't like it when they do that, and that they need to respect your lifestyle too.
2007-01-17 11:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesbians normally try to influence straights..thats a fact...and if youre fiance doesnt like it...well stop hanging with them so much...he isn't telling you anything that is wrong, he's just trying to protect you..and dont you love him...its not like he's telling you to stop talking to normal straight friends just the lesbians one right, that because he doesnt want you to become one... i say if it was normal friends he would have to live with it,unless they were trying to lead you astray...think about it..he not being controlling just protective...
2007-01-17 11:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by lala diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friends r trying to do this to u and they r makeing u unhappy maybe its time to think if they realy r ur true friends at all,i have a lesbian friend who knows that im compleatly straight and would never dream of trying to influence me, you partner should also know that u have no intrest and sorry as bad as it sounds if he hasent spoke to you for this long is he worth it too.
the only other thing u can do is try and explane to ur friends that u wont be seeing them much and stay at home with your bf,its very hard when u are torn between ur friends and loved ones i can only give u this bit of advice good luck with whatever u decide to do.
2007-01-17 11:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by wiccawoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will I think that if were friends with them before you and your fiance got to gether than he should move past being like that becous he should of known who your friends are before it got serios and you shouldnt lesion to someone who is tring to change you and your friends you can do better than that And u need to tell your frindes how much thay mean to u becous I know how it feels to be judged and stuff becous you are atracted to the same sex
2007-01-17 12:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either are a lesbian or you are not. If you don't agree with the lifestyle then why are you keeping their company? You need to come straight out and admit to your boyfriend that you are curious. This won't matter to him of course, he has already made up his mind that you changed teams on him. You need to face up to the fact that either you are like your friends or you aren't. Either way, you need to honest with everyone. Thank you.
2007-01-17 11:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a choice to be a lesbian or not. Your friends and your fiance need to understand sexual orientation is not a choice. With understanding your friends will leave you alone, assuming you are straight. But if you are lesbian, or bi-sexual ( and you only know that) then you should not be a shame of your sexuality.
2007-01-17 11:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by acmeman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is more important to you, then make your decision from that. If he wants maybe you and your fiancee should just shack up. Your gay friends need to respect your lifestyle it seems to me that misery loves company why are they pushing something on you when your are in a relationship. I can see if you was single maybe but not when you have someone, you need to re-evaluate your friends and make a choice, good luck.
2007-01-17 11:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant blaim your man, for feeling the way he does!! He obviously finds your friends as a "Threat" to your relationship.... You need to make a decision, and its going to end up hurting someone, but if he's more important to you than they are, then you need to seperate yourself from them a bit, you know!!! So, he doesn't feel threatened by them anymore!! Just spend the weekends, every other weekend with them, or something... And see if that's okay with him, if your relationship means that much to you, you'll need to make sacrafices, you know.. Be Careful, and think about his feelings too, you know...... Smile!!!
2007-01-17 11:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fiance did not talk with you for 4 months? he is your ex now!!
if your lesbian friends want to influence you, you may choose to stay in another group. it sounds silly, but real friends don't push you to feel uncomfortable,
go with your guts, and if you feel bored, jsut the class for fun.
2007-01-17 11:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Tracy But 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋