I fell in deep love with my friend's bro...(more of an acquaintance now) ...I seriously thought I was over him...I was enjoying life and all was good. So, I finally decided to befriend him, but I have come to realize that maybe that wasn't such a good idea-this made me inadvertently start thinking about him, and it hurts because I never see him at all....God only know when I'll see him again. It's not like we're buddy buddy with each other. He accepted my friendship via myspace, I'm sure he doesn't like me like that-plus he's 24, and I'm almost 20-and I have known them for 6 years, and well him-he wasn't around much when I was close with her, so it's not like he knows me. Any who, how did you deal with this? I think time and prayer. Thanks.
2007-01-17 03:23:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well now, we know how you feel, but how does he feel about you?
Why are you the chaser here?
If a guy wants you bad enough, he's gonna let you know. Thats my rule of thumb.
Let him tree you, don't tree him.
2007-01-17 03:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having the same issue with my current friend (read my questions.) It is very difficult to tell someone how you feel when you don't see them as much and when you do, you are always in a group. I am going through life thinking he's a brotherly figure instead of a romantic interest but the last time I saw him my feeling grew. I think we both should tell the people we love how we feel. I wish you good luck!
2007-01-17 11:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa Svetlana Flavored Coffee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex-boyfriends and girlfriends are hard to deal with, especially when there has been an intense attraction and especially when it was at a young age.
Try to think of it like this, your ex is a poisonous mushroom that emits spores of poison. Think of a purple cloud of dust surrounding them. This spore cloud gets on everything they touch, it gets on emails and letters, it gets on pictures of them and of course it is strongest around them in person. Every time you are in contact with your ex you inhale these spores and it makes you sick. It clouds your judgement with "what if" and "remember the good times". It will make you crazy.
Your only option is to stay away and if you want to be friends in a year or so, then try it, but if the spore cloud is still there, it might not be possible.
2007-01-17 11:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have personally found in my life, it's much easier to forget a guy if you have something tangible to concentrate on. I used to use books when I was still dating. Also, exercising and crafts helped too. Anything I could do that absorbed my full attention I would do when thoughts of him wandered in. Overtime, the thoughts of the guy would dwindle and disappear. The worst thing you can do is dwell on it.
2007-01-17 11:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not ready to be friend with him, then don't be. it just makes you feel bad at all, and you don't need to feel uncomforable.
you can move on by action, maybe met some new frineds and explosure your life. he is not mr.right, but you can find mr. nice later on.
time is full of adventure, and you loss him, but someone nicer is come along. never give up trying!!
2007-01-17 11:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by Tracy But 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i know too much what you mean..i fell in love with my sisters boyfriend brother..i loved me some him..but then s h i t didnt work out..am i still over him maybe not sure..and it has been about 21/2 years now...arghhh..i hate that..
2007-01-17 11:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the heart never forgets. Just remember that you had feelings for that person and it was significant, just don't let it control your life.
2007-01-17 11:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Julian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋