How do I bring up the fact that my finacee looks at porn while I'm not around. I accidentally stumbled across the site he has subscribed to when I was cleaning out the computer. I don't want him to think I was snooping, but I find it really disturbing that he is doing this. He's not just surfing, he is ordering it.
2007-01-17 03:21:19 · 24 answers · asked by Kate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it bothers you that much, maybe you should ask him about it........with that said I dont see anything wrong with it. They only thing that is wrong with it to me and that my wife would flip out about is the fact that hes paying for it!! He should buy a magazine or a porn dvd or something...haha...You should just talk to him about it if it bothers you.....maybe buy him a porn and say "watch this instead of spending our money on it on the internet" At least the dvd would be a one time fee...haha
And no matter what anyone says, it does not mean he will ever cheat on you or wants too.....at all!
2007-01-17 03:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Win the West!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont accidently stumble across anything on a computer, you had an idea what he was doing and you did Snoop, come clean!
You must be honest or you dont have a prayers chance in hell of making a good marriage.
Men have a tendency to look at: Playboy/Hustler/Penthouse, movies/Playboy channel or other visual erotica. That is somewhat normal.
However, if he is spending an usnusual amount of your budget on the porn sites or literature, you better put the reigns on it fast.
If he is lying about the sites, something is wrong.
If he is looking at kiddie porn, or **** porn beware.
If he just looks at a magazine and "spanks the monkey" does not mean he does not love you, or you "dont turn him on anymore", men are funny about that stuff.
What I always wondered, if your man comes home in the middle of the day and you are all greased up on your bed watching a hot movie and have your electrical friend buzzing away your frustrations, how would they feel????????? I think that is a very different scenerio, shoe on the other foot! They feel inadequate to the lectric lover!!!! hahahahahah
i suppose it is 6 of one and half a dozen to the other.....
2007-01-17 03:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Joyce D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at porn is absolutely normal and nothing for you to be upset about. Every single guy on the planet does it. Brad Pitt probably looks at porn, and he's with Angelina Jolie! Bringing it up would probably just make him defensive, and then be secretive.
Does it really matter that much? You still have a normal sex life, right? He's not ignoring you while spending hours and hours on the internet, right?
I wouldn't say anything about it. It has nothing at all to do with your relationship. Guys just look at porn. If he had something to hide, then he'd hide it, not have it just on the computer for anyone to find. Don't stress about it.
2007-01-17 03:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by lickitysplit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman and I don`t like porn. I think it rots the brain.
Sounds like you share this opinion. A lot of women are having to make similar decisions, questions are always here on Yahoo about this. I am surprised at how many women just go along with it as "normal". Yes, it´s normal to an extent. Since he has kept this secret it sounds to me like the "secret" is eating at you and you have suspicions that this is more than you think. I believe you should trust your instincts and value your own morals.
Porn has become the new addiction and women are the first to notice it.
He probably won`t stop so you have to decide ....
2007-01-17 03:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bern 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a sexual man at home who is interested in porn and sex period. Maybe he is not getting enough play from you or maybe you should be supportive and ask him if you can watch it with him and maybe try something afterwards that you have seen? Best bet on that! He will not deny you, the other way around i am pretty sure he is going to be happy for you even suggesting something like that. A lot of guys wish their girlfriends watch porn with them, but females tent to dislike that stuff (not all of course, but known numbers), they are just too scared to disrespect you in some way by asking you something like that. Try, see if it works.....
2007-01-17 03:28:42 · answer #5 · answered by BK thang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, some people say its normal for a guy to look at porn but not when he has a fiance and you two are living together. i think you and him need to sit down and talk, ask him why he's ordering porn and if he thinks that your not giving him enough attention or sex. you should adress him about this now because if you keep holding back, then he'll be ordering more and more and soon be in love with porn more than you! good luck, hope this does'nt affect you guys relationship!:)
2007-01-17 03:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by ANNA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is there to bring up? He enjoys porn and always will. I think the real question should be why are you not watching it with him? The only thing you can do by fighting him is force him to feel like he has to hide it and lie about it.
2007-01-17 03:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man is a man and they love their porn. Let him b. Would u rather he goes out there and cheats on u with a real woman or just sit at home and watch it where he can't touch the women a man will b a man.
2007-01-17 03:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every single man who owns or has access to a computer uses it to look at porn. I can't prove it but thats just the way it is. if you don't like it maybe you should consider becoming a lesbian or a Nun.
2007-01-17 03:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All men look at porn. The fact that you are unaware of this and "horrified" is further proof that you are too immature to get married. He doesn't deserve a basketcase like you. Grow up.
2007-01-17 03:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by surfinthedesert 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋