how can i do better?

Question

hi im 14 year old boy and i got a few issues which i want to solve i hate school i almost never go and my mum is geting in trouble and its because of me and that isnt fare i dont live with my dad and i have 2 older and 2 older sister but they have they own lives exept my 16 year old brother which his ok and trys to help me but lives with my dad. i dont like goign to skool i dont go i have a big temper problem i smash things up drink sometimes and im messin my own live up which i am NOT bothed about but i want to do good for my mum and work hard like i used to. i dont listen to any one never and i stay up like 4am messin about and i dont liek it ut i cant help it. i am even soposed to be haveing a fight in 2 hrs with some dude and i will get in more trouble, any help please thanks

Answer 1

Grow up.

Answer 2

We all make choices in our lives. Sounds like thus far you've made some pretty bad ones. Your mom loves you and only wants whats best for you. If you having a hard time dealing, then maybe you should sit and talk with your mom about getting some help. Dont ever think that things are just too far gone for you to fix, because they're not. Its up to YOU to make those changes that you know you need to make. I still have faith in you that you can do the right thing and make something of yourself. And I know your mom feels the same. Good luck and remember, you have choices,, just think about why your doing what your doing and how it would effect ur mom BEFORE you do something.

Ps, Dont fight, thats just lame!

Answer 3

Well you want to do better are you wouldn't have asked. That is a good start. You do have a very bad attitude and only you can change that. You need schooling if you are ever going to have a decent job. I wish your Mother didn't have to worry so much. You have the ability to take that worry from her and make her so proud of you and happy. You can do better by just making up your mind to not let other people have control over how you act. You know in your heart what is right and what is wrong. Go for the right, you can do it, because you want to. Good Luck !!!

Answer 4

Think of it this way.. One day your mum is not going to be there for you. Take for example, my father was an alcoholic, I grew up in a very abusive home. My mother always taking the beatings for us. My father got liver cancer from drinking all of the time. They told him 3 - 6 months, it was more like 3 weeks after the biopsy. I was a wild teenager, never listened, did all of the things you were doing. My father went into a partial coma, couldn't talk, could barely move. He wanted to die at home, and so he did. He could never tell us he was sorry for anything. Though it was a rough life, we all knew he had a problem and loved him very much. I had to be the one to change his diaper on his death bed, give him morphine on a swab so he wouldn't feel the pain, and watch him die that morning as the death rattle came, I thought to myself, I'll never get to "know" my father. I never got the chance to say I was sorry for everything that I did in the past, and for never listening. Wake up honey.. Do what's right. I look at my son everyday and hope that he will not be like me. You can do it, you just have to want to do it. Your mom needs you. And you need your mom. Please do her some justice for being there for you. You're all she has. Coming from a mom, I know. I wish I could go on and on with you, but life is really too short, and you might regret these things later in life. Be smart.

Answer 5

I think you need to talk to your mom first!!! As a mother I can tell you SHE NEED TO HEAR THIS FROM YOU!!! You need to open up and be honest with her. Tell her you love her and that you want to change your life around. (WHICH BY THE WAY YOU SHOULD DO FOR YOURSELF AS WELL AS FOR YOUR MOM!) Your mom is going to be more than happy to help you, and you will be amazed how this 1st step will change your relationship with her!! Then I think you should ask your mom to help you find a councilor and/or a mentor. Someone you can TRUST!! They can help guide you through this tough time!

NEXT! You really need to understand that all kids go through a period of rebellion (but how they handle it will vary). This is a normal part of growing up. HOWEVER it sounds like you are having a hard time understanding and controlling it.(maybe some anger management classes will help with that) Take a deep breath, relax and start every day one day at a time! It is going to take some hard work on your part, you may even get discouraged, but just remember YOU CAN DO IT!!!! SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOU ARE STARTING THAT TRACK ALREADY JUST BY REALIZING YOUR MISTAKES AND SEEKING SOME ANSWERS TO HELP!!! AND YOU CAN START BY NOT FIGHTING IN 2 HRS! GOOD LUCK I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT AND ALL WILL WORK OUT FOR THE BEST!!!!

Answer 6

You are 14 yrs old so you are still young and everybody makes mistakes. If you really want to help your mother and your family then you would grow up and not do the things that is hurting them. Don't go to the fight today and prove to yourself that you are mature. Apologize to your mother for the way you have been acting and straighten up! I doubt you want to end up in prison which would hurt your mother even more so I suggest you talk to your mother and maybe a counselor and see what they think and why they think you do these things.

Answer 7

It's up to you to change your lifestyle. No one elce can do that for you. I mean, you see what you are doing and how it affects your mom so why would you keep doing it. You say you cant help it...but you can. So you dont' like school...talk to your mom about homeschool. You have to go to school by law. Maybe you can pass the GED exam. Dude, you have to quit putting your mom through this. I watched what it did to my aunt when her kids did this and I don't think you understand the full extent of what it does to them. Think about her, not yourself. About the fight, don't go. I know that's easier said than done but it's the only way to stop the act your putting up!

Answer 8

For starters, its good that you know that you are messing your own life. I therefore congratulate you, that at least you are aware of your actions. You know what to do kid, you just hate to be responsible enough and justify your actins with messing up.

Its nice that you get to say what you have to say here. Maybe you just want someone to listen. Hope you wake up soon - Life isnt really a bed of roses.

Answer 9

Why don't you try to talk to a counsler? Or maybe your brother can give you advice? You shouldn't be so tough on your mother, she is trying hard to support you, try to help her instead of making it harder on her.Try to be a better person and show people that you can change. Good Luck and take it easy.

Answer 10

ay yo first u should fight that dude take out all ur anger but dont do anything extreme secondu should go to school wether u like it or not people onl can make themselves changeonless there devoted to changing themselves im 15 i wnt through a time like that to but i changed for me and my mom i did stuff i didnt like because i thought about the future and wat would happen i think u should sit and think to its ur choice and no one eslses

Answer 11

You need to be talking with both your parents. They need to provide you with some help........possibly some counseling, or medical assistance. You could have some family, medical, and/or emotional issues that are out of your control. PLEASE seek help! And PLEASE do NOT go to that fight in 2 hrs!