My boyfriend and I have been togetehr 7 months. He moved in with me also. We moved to fast. I wan tto back up in our serious relationship and just date. I mentioned him moving out and us still being together...But hes like "if I move out, Im sure we would break up"...Im frustrated with how he blows his money and then comes begs me for money. I wish he would be more responsible - and maybe if he knew he had his own rent and such maybe he would grow up...We do split our bills now though.
2007-01-17 03:11:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has thrown a red flag out there and you are just taking notice of something that could potentially become a big problem as the relationship progresses. I think you should talk about the concerns your having about the money being spent.. Money is almost the number one reason marriages break up. You have to realize that he is sharing the bills, so he is taking care of business before spending. However it would be a good idea to put some of that money away for the future. Just 10% of each of your incomes is enough, then pay bills then play with the rest. Don't boot him out just yet, try to work out a money plan.
2007-01-17 03:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby it sound like you're really not diggin' him.
First of all never move a man in your place especially at such a short amount of time. You hardly know him. Be blunt about the situation. Let him know and stand firmly that you want him out by a certain date. If he doesn't bother then TO THE LEFT!! TO THE LEFT !! EVERYTHING YOU OWN IN THE BOX TO THE LEFT !! IF he choose to leave you so what he 's replaceable !!!
2007-01-17 11:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by daga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he ask for money, tell him your broke. Don't let him know all your finances. He is just saying that you would break up, but when it came down to it, if he liked/loved you, he wouldn't. Or he is just there using you. I would tell him that if he didn't start being responsible, he will have to move out. If he is 20 or over, chances are, he is not going to grow up and start being responsible.
2007-01-17 11:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to teach him some money management. If you force him to move out you two will break up, that's not a guarantee but it's highly probable. I'd say just talk to him openly about everything you dislike about his ways. He'll either change or go on his seperate way. It's hard, I know, but he has to grow up eventually.
2007-01-17 11:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Julian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy now then you need to do something to change the situation . Don't wait and hope you can change him because you can't. He is the only one who can decide to change and see it through. Money is one of the number one reasons for divorce. Things don't change magically. You need to shake it up or move on because believe it are not when you get married things intensify so the little ignoring things you don't like now you'll want to pull your hair at later.
2007-01-17 11:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. This proves my theory right. Moving in together before marriage complicates things.
Ask him to move out because you feel like you two are going too fast. Tell him exactly what you told us. If it's meant to be, it will be.
2007-01-17 11:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to back off on a relationship. Once you have a crossed a barrier it is hard to ask the other to uncross it (esp. if they do not want to). All you can do is communicate what you want and impliment it.
Good Luck
2007-01-17 11:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you took the moving-in step too soon, if you arent' ready fo it then it is best not to continue, it sounds to me like he isn't ready either. Get a sep. place and see how things go.
2007-01-17 11:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by jessie1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
backing up is nearly impossible, without some1 getting hurt and high probablity of breakup.
sounds like he might be using you as supplement income, maybe you should just dump him if he isnt who you wanna share your life and home with
2007-01-17 11:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by candi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down and do what your gonna say. Leave. He needs time to grow-up and he might mature afterwards. Good luck to you and him.
2007-01-17 11:15:44 · answer #10 · answered by abeauty1102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋