I met this lady on the net (christian dating site) about 3 weeks ago. We chatted on the internet for about 3 hours two days straight, and then I got her number, been calling here since. Note that we are in our 20's. About 5 days later, I asked her if she would like to meet and do something together, she said that sounded good. Granted, she said I didn't make her uncomfortable at all, and it sounded like a pretty good thing is building up. She has a busy schedule, a little chaotic. So last Saturday, I left her a message and at the end of it I said to give me a shout any time, because she had that day off. It is now Wednesday, and I haven't heard a thing, not one call or message. I just want to know ladies, what do you think is going on here? It sounded like she was interested, and then all the sudden, silence.
Thank you very much
2007-01-17 03:07:00 · 25 answers · asked by Light Bringer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Could be one of two things. She is waiting now until she actually has some time to meet you and then she will call you or she is not interested. Message her and ask her what is going on and if she is not interested she will let you know in some way. She could also have gone away for the long weekend, worked overtime or had a family emergency. It is not always about you, although sometimes we get caught up in this, especially when we first meet someone. Good luck to you and God bless.
2007-01-17 03:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do the same thing and I've always suspected that they were talking to someone else too and decided to meet them - then if it does not work out you hear from them a few weeks later. You should also consider that there is something going on in her life that you don't know about and she just has not been able to get back to you. Or perhaps she deleted the message before hearing it. I'd send a quick email just saying you had not heard from her and just wanted to make sure everything was OK.
2007-01-17 11:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people get caught up in situations and then they don't know what to do when reality sets in. It is possible that she did have a connection with you and does like you but maybe she was too far into it to say no. Maybe she is not ready to meet you but got in over her head and doesn't know how to deal with it so she needs time to think. Don't take it personally..............you sound great and I am sure she knows it. Give her a few days and some space and if you don't hear from her maybe by the weekend, send an email asking her if she would like to slow down. Don't rush her, let her adjust.
2007-01-17 11:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be honest and I hope I don't hurt your feelings here. When a woman says something sounds like a good idea and then you don't hear from her for days on end, she really meant that it sounded like a horrible idea and your creeping her out. People should not meet people they talk to online. It just isn't a good idea. If you want to date a person then you need to meet them face to face in public. Turn off your computer and get out of the house. She was probably thinking damn I should use my real photo or I bet he's some awful looking pervert if he's meeting people online.
2007-01-17 11:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes might not be interested anymore, because Im sure by now shes heard the message. I would say shes busy (she might be but with another guy) but Im sure you have some kind of time in 4 days to return a phone call.
She either isn't interested or dating is her last priority over 30 priorities! lol
2007-01-17 11:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Truthfully♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is what I call a sh*t test!
Women do it all the time.
Don't set all your hopes on her and remember you found her on the internet, plus you don't really even know her, therefore she should not be even slightly important to you.
You need to keep busy and keep talking to all the other girls you know and she will come around.
If and when you contact her again it should not be a big deal that she blew you off tell her a few stories of the cool and fun things you have been up to and then let her go and explain that you are busy and will catch up with her later on in the week.
2007-01-17 11:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Willie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I tried a few internet dating sites and each time I was about to actually meet the guy I chickened out, too. I don't really know why. I was getting lots of warnings from my friends and family and I think I was so afraid of it not working out, I just couldn't bring myself to take that step. She has probably been burned and is very cautious. I'm sure it isn't you. Keep trying.
2007-01-17 11:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her schedule is chaotic than something probably came up. I wouldn't read too much into if if I were you. You don't want to scare her off. Just let her come to you if you have already left her a message, you don't want to appear desperate!
2007-01-17 11:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Treyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, don't take it personally, she might be really busy or maybe is getting freaked out about meeting you. she could've come out of a bad relationship adn scared to start a new one. you sound like a great guy adn i'm sure she is interested in you, just hang loose and try to stay busy so you don't get too uptight worrying about it. she'll call, if not, maybe send her another message. hope it works out dude
2007-01-17 11:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by shine_on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably every one she knows said WHAT? you arent meeting someone from the internet are you? That could be dangerous! and she doesnt know what to say to you now. So when you do hear from her ask her outright if that happened and make sure when you do meet its in a public place where she can feel safe.
2007-01-17 11:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋