We have been together for the last five years,i love her and she loves me(i'm sure),whenever i demand she tells me to relax.I'm proceeding to the university,she is about to do her kcse.
2007-01-17 03:05:35 · 22 answers · asked by Boy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you do is stop pressuring her. When she is ready, she will let you know. If all you want her for is sex, then maybe you should move on to someone else. In the meantime, treat her like a lady and respect her wishes.
2007-01-17 03:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about future:
marriage, children, religion, values, money, etc.
Most people don't talk about these before marriage and are amazed at how different they are.Share new experiences together: go to restaurants, do different activities (bike riding, games, socials etc), read/discuss books, watch TV movies, hang out with friends together (yours and hers),
discuss studies,
do work for family and/or friends, volunteer, gcommunity help together,
worship,
walk,
most of all respect her decision and don't ask her again.
Isn't being with her enough?
You can visit many places and get to know each other better.
And these visits don't have to cost: some do and some don't.
If you are asking: what can you do physically?:
kiss, hold hands, c ccarresse, but be careful. If you think that you are tempted to ask her again and try and persuade her, don't be alone so that won't occur. You could also decide on an activity that both of you would like to learn more about: music, dancing, photography, etc. That will also draw you closer. When with a group, it is less likely that sex will come up.
2007-01-17 11:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by JAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a dick. Why is she still with you? She should've left you a long time ago. Love never demands anything. You come off as way to selfish and immature to be in a relationship. Stop treating your girl so badly, in fact do her a favour and let her go so is free to find a real man, not a boy who caves into his carnal needs but a true man who can actually treat her like the queen she truly is. And when she does leave take that time to figure out how to actually love and respect women properly.
2007-01-17 11:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by simm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect her. Anyway, both of you are still studying not married. Even if both of you are married, you still have to respect her. Only when you have earn her respect by respecting her, the perception will be different. You can have a talk with her to tell her of your desire. A small note on the fridge, a whisper or some flirting might arouse her needs. Sex is a way for couples to express love, but its not everything in a relationship or marriage. Respect, trust and love are the most important things in a relationship. Keep it going!
2007-01-17 11:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that it's a push/pull process.
You're not getting sex even though you're with her for five years, because you're pushing. You push, push, push... and she knows the option is there whenever she wants it.. but moreso... you're not easing her fears about it.
I presume that as a couple, you commonly kiss and touch eachother. I would hope so.
When you make an advance that she pulls back from, pull back from it too and say something like, "You're right, we shouldn't do that" and show a desire to stop completely. She'll want the affection still... she'll pull you back. Step by step, you can break down that resistance. If she's dated you for this long, she most likely ~wants~ to have sex with you, but is scared.
And if she doesn't ~want~ to, underneath her fears, you'll know. Because this won't work at all. But at least you'll know.
2007-01-17 11:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Demand" ? Hmmm.....sounds like you're not with her because you like her for who she is. If you need sex so much, maybe you should do her a favor, let her go and hang out at a bar. There are all kinds of women you could have sex with there. Or better yet, get yourself a hooker, since sex is so important to you.
2007-01-17 11:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by freedove06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show a little "Patience" and respect her wishes..... Ask her, if she can take care of your needs in another way... And be behind her with her Goals, you know... Dont throw in the towel, over sex, she's obviously got plans to make a better way of life for the two of you, the least you can do for her, is to back her on everything, and see if she'll be willing to make sacrafices too! Good-Luck, to the two of you!! Smile!!!
2007-01-17 11:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought of asking her to marry you. She might be one of the old-fashioned girls who want a family for keeps.
Maybe she knows what the chances are of becoming another single mother with her future right down the drain, while her "man" is banging out kids with some of her friends.
2007-01-17 11:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about this girl then you should respect her wishes about not having sex with you. You are going to be going separate ways soon and maybe she wants to see what will happen with this. There are many people out there that choose to not have premarital sex and you should respect that situation.
2007-01-17 11:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years??
well I can only assume that she is waiting to be married before sex if she has denied you this long, by the way what the hell gives you the right to DEMAND anything from her?
2007-01-17 11:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mark C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋