My beautiful daughter is going through terrible twos. She cries, she wines, she clings, she hits. One minute she wants it and the next she doesnt. She doesnt EVER want to go to bed and wants to sleep extremley late. I get so aggrevated wth her because I am a single mother and never get help but sometimes I catch myself about to lose control with her. How do I calm her down and myself in the middle of her screaming and me about to go insane!!!! Please HELP!!!
2007-01-17 03:05:19 · 7 answers · asked by Kamryn's Mommie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
the terrible 3s are worse, this is just practice!!!
2007-01-17 03:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The "terrible twos" are a result of the badly managed ones. I remember telling my daughter many times (in case she forgot) "I don't care what you are crying and whining for--even it it is a second helping of green beans-- you are not going to get it!!!" She did something I REALLY didn't like one day (I don't remember now what it was) and I looked her straight in the eye and said " I don't EVER want to see that again! What do we have to do so it will NEVER happen---I'm serious, what will it take?" She never did make a suggestion, but to the best of my recollection I never did see it again. Getting enough rest is a problem. I told my daughter she must be civil in the morning. If she woke up grumpy I would understand that she wasn't getting enough rest, and she would go to bed an hour earlier the next day... until it happened that she was going to bed right after she was getting up. She knew I meant it, and was civil in the morning. I don't think she got enough sleep though. My only hint in that direction is that children need a lot of exercise in order to sleep well. I taught my daughter to play cribbage at age two, and so she learned to count while playing games. And we spent good time together. (we still play cribbage some)
2007-01-17 11:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am completely with you though my daughter it was the terrible 3s and now phasing into the 4s Just stand your ground bedtime is non negotiable Believe me you will be glad you stuck with this later my daughter knows this is not something she can scream her way through Routine is key. Every night it is some milk with a short movie then we brush our teeth then read a bedtime story then it is in bed and it works without fail. With tantrums then happen but they will lesson overtime. I refuse to stay in a store if my daughter does it regardless of what we are doing we leave. I know it is hard hang in there it will get better. Just enjoy the cute moments when you get them they are what makes it all worth it.
2007-01-17 11:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by peeps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she screams, tell her if she doesn't stop you will put her in bed. If she keeps screaming, pick her up and put her in bed. Let her scream and cry in there. When she calms down get her out and tell her to talk to you, not scream or she will go in bed every time she acts that way. And then do it! You have to teach her to talk to you about what she wants or does not want instead of screaming! Two is not to young to start teaching and punishing. They have to learn there are consequences for their actions! Kids that age hate to be ignored and away from what is going on. I can't tell you how many times I even left the grocery cart sitting full to take a two yr old home and put in bed! She'll learn!
2007-01-17 11:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will live through the terrible twos! It just requires a whole lot of patience (and counting to ten when you get ticked off!!!) Remember that you are the boss and don't back down on what you say. She can start to get time-outs at this age (one minute per year of age) and when she is displaying the appropriate behavior, lavish her with praise, affections, or maybe even a high-five.
2007-01-17 12:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sylvia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy do I know what you are going through but my daughter is 17 months (but it seems like the terrible two's) usually when my daughter acts out I find that all she really wants is some "one on one time" with mommy. It might help to turn off the TV go in a quiet room and read to her, sing, play etc....just give her all your attention. As single mothers we are always busy because we have to do EVERYTHING by ourselves and unfortunately it takes away time with our little ones. So just cutting back on some of those things and give some of ourselves to them makes them feel special.
2007-01-17 11:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sue Sue2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.. a little bit of patience goes a long way. At this time in her development, she is having a hard time expressing herself as her communication is not on par with yours. Ignore those temper tantrums and remember she's still very young.
Also of note, try to be consistant with bed times. Again, she's beginning to learn how to express herself and probably doesn't want to miss anything by going to bed. Patience and consistency are big factors in her growth.
I know, I have survived my own three. Before you know it, she'll be asking for the car keys.
2007-01-17 11:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by lady_jenna802 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋