I found out that my boyfriend is married. And that's why i decided nt to kee it, besides do'nt have stable job. Please need help....
2007-01-17 02:53:00 · 23 answers · asked by MADZ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It depends how far into the pregnancy you are. I have had a termination and I know of a friend that has. My reason for the termination is because I didnt know my partner well enough (4 months) and I was a student. At the time it felt like the right choice and it still does. I look at my life now and think 'my gosh... my child would not have had a good life''.. and I want to give the best environment and life to my children (in the future). Whereas my friend struggled with the fact that she chose to terminate. Why? Because she was thinking about herself and not about her child!
Your the only one who should make a choice about this... no one else! I hope you choose to do the right thing for yourself and for your future children.
Good luck babe x
2007-01-17 04:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
It's not good enough to simply think that you're pregnant, you must find out for sure by taking a pregnancy test. Now as for you not wanting to keep the baby, I think the sooner you find out the easier it will be to abort. I won't lecture you on that as I'm sure this is the last thing you need at this point but if I were you I'd try taking care of it before you start to show.
Now you can always go to plan parenthood or any other clinics that can advice you more on the matter and counsel you, that should make whatever it is that you choose to do a bit easier on you.
Best of luck to you sweety.
2007-01-17 03:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that your situation seems hopeless right now, but hang in there and don't make any quick decisions. A baby is such a precious gift from God. You need to talk to a counselor and really think hard before you decide what to do. Yesterday I read several letters to the editor in my local paper regarding an editorial on abortion. There one entire page from women who had abortions some years ago and they all said the same things in different words, THEY ALL REGRETTED IT!!! I was adopted when I was 3 years old, in fact my parents adopted 4 children. There are people out there who can love and care for this child if you choose to give the baby up for adoption. There are resources to help you get through this pregnancy, so don't let money cloud your decision. OR, that your boyfriend is married. You and him both made a mistake, but sometimes you can make it better by starting to make better decisions. Again I want to say, children are a precious gift from GOD, I have three and I can't imagine my life without them. Good things can still come out of bad choices. Lastly, PRAY and talk to a pastor at your church or a local church. You are in my prayers!
2007-01-17 03:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by aw&cwinTX 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
This is a very difficult situation you find yourself in. You say you don't want to keep the baby and that is of course, your choice. I'm just wondering what you mean when you go on to say, Please help. Do you have some doubts? I would advise you to go talk to someone at the family planning team so you can go through all the pros and cons with someone who is independent and can show you all your choices. They'll talk through feelings and practical things with you.
Ask yourself this, 'Five years down the line would you regret your decision?
Whatever it is that you decide to do, I wish you lots of happiness.
2007-01-17 03:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a very big decision and I don't think you should be asking people on here what you should do. Have you spoken to any1 else about it? Try telling a close friend or a family member and get support from them. If your family could support you then why not consider keeping the baby, it may be the best thing you ever do. Its so emotinal having an abortion and some people never recover from it.
If you are 100% decided then please consider adoption, I know it may be hard carrying the baby for that length of time but imagine how happy it would make another couple, to give them a baby they thought they could never have...
please take care and I hope everything turns out ok
love and hugs
xxxxx
2007-01-17 03:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by smudge 3 · 5⤊ 4⤋
There are so many couples out there that desparately want children and can't have them. If you put your baby up for adoption, you can give them the joy of a baby they never thought they'd have. I believe a baby is a blessing from God, and though you may not be ready for a child, someone else is aching for one. Maybe this gift wasn't intended for you, but for someone else. Put your baby up for adoption. Give someone the chance to have a family. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-17 03:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all you need to find out if you are for definite. Then you have to decide what to do, this is the hard bit, but don't listen to all the do-gooders saying how bad you must be. This is YOUR life, YOUR decision you have to make the right one for YOU. Good luck sweetheart it's a toughie x
2007-01-17 06:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Brown cow 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The first thing to do is find out if you definitely are pregnant before you make any decisions. Next, if you are, you can call an adoption agency and put the baby up for adoption. Next get on birth control so this doesn't happen to you in the future. Next, at least know who you are dating and a little history on someone before sleeping with them. How could you not know that he was married? I mean what was the relationship like, he just come to your house to get laid and then leave. If that is the case, why would you want to be used like that? Lastly, I would call his wife and let her know what kind of man she was married to. She has a right to know that the man she is sleeping with is out sleeping around and impregnating other women. He could bring her a disease home and she's innocent in all of this!!
2007-01-17 03:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 3⤊ 4⤋
i think you should think some more about this as when you have had the abortion it will then be too late and you could end up regretting it there are now lots of services you can use for help as you will not be alone on this one try talking to your boyfreind i mean your boyfreind may not be happy in his marriage and maybe he will even leave his wife for you if you need anymore help plz ask
2007-01-17 03:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by tamzin b useful today 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wish i had something more to say, but I just want to wish you good luck. Don't take pressure from anyone over pro-aboriton or anti-abortion, just follow what you believe to be the right course... all the luck in the world to you.
2007-01-17 03:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by tituseast 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋