I am a Christian. My husband wants me to convert to his religion (Mormon). We married eachother knowing full well who we were marrying. Nothing was hidden. Now he wants me to change? What do you think?
2007-01-17 02:46:23 · 39 answers · asked by seslies 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think its fine for him to ask. People change through life. If you get married at 30 it is naive to think that you and your spouse will be the same people at 50. There is nothing wrong with seeing if your spouse will consider something new. It's fine for you to decline also.
2007-01-17 02:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by ÜFÖ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, many people marry with the hopes of the other, at some point, converting. Most often this is due to a lack of communication on both people's parts. I say this because although one might believe one has 'settled' the issue with the other, it is possible that the spouse has taken one's willingness to marry as a signal that they have leverage. Also, it could be that one's lack of communication signals to the other that a 'no' now could mean a 'yes' later.
It is fair for each spouse to respect the other's religious preferences, and be supportive, but each also needs to be quite clear on how much of a 'boundary' that is in the relationship. Besides money, religious/social compatibility is a major cause of relationship break-up.
I honestly do not think both of you were on the same page when you married. Unfortunately, that means that the preparation you should have done before you got married will need to be done now. Alot of it depends upon how much his faith/behavior will impact your relationship. The sooner you get 'clear' answers the sooner you can make informed choices.
2007-01-17 02:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Khnopff71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it's fair at all. If converting was an absolute must for him, then he should have asked you before you got married so you could say that you would not, and then you could have (painfully) gone your separate ways to find people who were better suited to each of you.
It is absolutely not fair of him to ask that you convert. He married you knowing you were a Christian. When you marry someone you marry their entirety, warts and all. If you WANT to convert on your own, that's one thing, but he should not be asking you to do so. We can't - and shouldn't try to - change people. They can only change themselves.
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2007-01-17 02:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you marry someone you accept them as they are. Marrying someone with the hope of changing them, in terms of religion or anything else, is foolish. In your particular case. you are being asked not only to make a drastic change in your life, but in fact to turn your back on Jesus Christ and enter into a false religion. Therefore what he is asking you to do should not even be an option you can consider. This is a good example of why the Bible warns us against becoming yoked with unbelievers.
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2007-01-17 03:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is quite disrespectful to ask your spouse to convert to a different belief system. Ask him to really consider how he would feel if you wanted him to convert to your religion. If he can not or will not empathize, whew. I do not envy you the situation.
I think if he insists on this, you might want to insist on getting a neutral third party to help work this out. Is there any reason for this sudden change of heart? Are people in his family or church putting pressure on him to ask this of you? I would try to understand where this is coming from so you can address the reason for a change like this.
Blessings- dd
2007-01-17 02:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband needs to remember why he married you in the first place. Then he needs to examine his own issues to see why converting you is so important to him after all this time. He also needs to realize that by insisting you convert, he is hurting you deeply. I'm sure it makes you feel as if he doesn't accept you, and that's just not right. He married you for a reason, he needs to go back to that. By trying to change you he could end up driving you away, emotionally if not physically. Make him aware of this.
2007-01-17 02:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please stay a Christian. Try to find a way to help your husband see how wrong mormonism is, and try to do it in such a way that he will not think you are ridiculing him. It might work if you agree to study Joseph Smith's "prophecies". Joseph Smith predicted many things that were later proved wrong. This proves that he was not a prophet. Tell your husband you want to learn more about mormonism, which I assume you do, and when you are studying it, look at the prophecies of Joseph Smith and start asking which ones came true and which ones were proved false.
PLease don't belittle him while you are doing this. I hope this helps your husband to become a Christian like you...
2007-01-17 03:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We will give the best to the one we love deeply or dearly. So if Christianity is the best you have embraced, share with him yours so that he is converted to yours and not yours to his. Now you must quickly read up or find someone who can help you to share the shortcoming of the other religion (mormon). You need to know more about your faith to share it to your spouse too.
2007-01-17 02:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ptuan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not fair or reasonable. I do have a feeling however that converting you to Mormonism may have been his plan all along.
If you are not Mormon you can't share the afterlife together can you?
2007-01-17 02:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian, did you not read the part in the Bible that says not to marry someone with whom you are unequally yoked? That means, you should believe the same thing that your fiancee does.
Too late now. Do not convert.
2007-01-17 02:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by Colette B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋