im cristian my moms muslim, what do i do ?

Question

my mom calls me everyday and asks me to take my shahada and everyday i tell her "no i know who my god is" and she says "save your soul sister" and i say " save your soul sister". now this is beginning to get on my nerves she'll even leave messages on my machine doing a muslim prayer. and i'll leave her messages stating verses of the bible. i also let her know that a real muslim woman must cover their hair at all times and are not allowed to smoke in public or give men eye contact. she says " you have to crawl before you walk, it takes time." then she says when she stops being depressed she will go to the masjid, she dont want them to see her like that. and the only reason she became muslim was for some man that don't think about her. how can i get my mother to wake up and stop following behind these no good men and treat my step father who takes care of her with more respect?

im not trying to rule my mother's life. i respect her. as far as affection my mother never gave me a hug or told me she loved me. i tried to hug her she pushed me away i told her i loved her she never said it back. and i do i show my mother alot of respect given her track record. i also told her to stop leaving those messages but she doesn't listen i even tried not talking to her but i can't im her only child, she's my mom you know. i respect her religion she isn't respecting mine. and all im saying is if your going to do it , do it right

Answer 1

You can't but you need to firmly state and make some boundaries. Let her know she has to stop, that you will no longer participate in a debate with her. She is to stop leaving these messages, period.

This is a great book on boundaries, I hope it can help.


Dealing with the CrazyMakers in Your Life: Setting Boundaries on Unhealthy Relationships
by Dr. David Hawkins

Answer 2

You can't make your mom do anything. All you can do is live your own life the best you can and treat her and other people with respect. Set a good example, in other words. You can give her advice if she asks for it, but in the end, you have no control over what your mom does or says. Only she can change her life. If you love her, accept her for what she is. Be affectionate. Tell her you love her, and want to see her happy. Encourage her to get some professional help for her depression. Treat her and your stepfather with respect. Stop trying to run her life for her.

Also, I appreciate your dedication to Christianity, but keep the Bible stuff to yourself. It is not going to help. The Bible is great for someone who believes in Christ, but to read the Bible to someone who does not is counter-productive and makes it LESS likely she is going to convert, if that is your ultimate goal. The best thing you can do is stick to acceptance, charity, and love. That is what Jesus did. Don't forget that the Bible also says "Honor Thy Father and Thy Mother." You dishonor her when you nag her and treat her like a child.

Good luck!

Answer 3

First off, Good Luck. Second, stop playing the game with her. If she leaves something on your phone, don't do the same back to her. That is just playing into the game. If someone has decided to change something in their life, like religion or politics, something big, it is almost impossible to change them back without something drastic happening to them. All you can do is just pray that she will see the light and turn her senses if you really want her back the old way.

Answer 4

She is not a real muslim, as you have mentioned , she became muslim for some man,religion is in our mind and heart.We should feel it by all means, you are free to accept it or not .I think you can prey God in the way you feel like it,dont mind muslim orchristian.I thin you can respect your mother,s idea.You can find the reality either in bibel or Qoran.

Answer 5

Well, if she is a true muslim, you should not criticise her and be supportive of her although her belief system is different from that of your own. If she is being heavily influenced by some other person to do something radical in her life, maybe you should just help her think about that. Dont be like "youre being influenced and its bad." You can't tell her that. Help her realise it herself. Have her ask herself if that is who she really is and if it is really who she is, why had she not done anything like this before? I really dont know how best to talk to your mom, and so I think only you can do it.

Answer 6

AMEN !!! I am a Christian. I walk the walk as well as talk the talk.
I don't know what you do about your Mother. I had a Mother who would have laid down her life for me. I miss her now for 21 yrs. ,One day I shall hold her and she will hold me again. I'm standing on the promises.~~~~God Bless You~~~~

Answer 7

so that you switched over to a faith the position the daylight orbits a puzzling and quickly earth, a faith the position Allah created all issues in pairs (asexual reproduction? uh-oh!), a faith the position Allah makes no massive difference between meteors and stars, the position camel urine is sturdy for you, fever is led to by the nice and cozy temperature of hell, and the major prophet did not even understand his nutrition were poisoned. Congratulations!

Answer 8

if your mother decided to become muslim because she want to so be and you have to respect that choice but if she did it because like you said for seduce a man that's another thing that you should talk about with her

Answer 9

'ey! Just remember always, whatever our religion is, we have the same God. He is the only one!

Just ignore her and do what you think the best for you!

God bless...

Answer 10

she doesnt seem like a good muslim, and u shood tell her that if she isnt a good muslim she mite as well turn christian... and if she doesnt listen tell her to go to a masjid and ask the imaan how she shood act.