I have been dating a guy for 1yr, and my parents don't want me to see him, so they don't know I'm with him. I recently heard that he is cheating on me,but when I asked him he said he wasn't. He tells his friends that he doesn't have a girlfriend (me). What should I do. I really do love him and I just don't know if things can work out.
2007-01-17 02:34:58 · 10 answers · asked by Nicole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being in love is a two way street and from his actions it seems like he is not on it! Parents can sometimes seem overbearing but 9 times out of 10 they know what's best for you. I think you should stop seeing him before this goes any further. You need to be loved and respected. You do not need to be with someone that cheats & lies about being with you. Tell him "I deserve to know the truth and I deserve your respect. I think we should go our seperate ways." He should respect your feelings & understand what is best for you. Obviously he is not good for you.
Good Luck! ;-)
2007-01-17 02:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone once told me some good advice - "the day you start doubting your relationship is the day its already over."
What are you looking for from this guy? If you're under the age of 26, then you shouldnt worry about this one guy. He sounds like he's not a good guy anyway - who dates someone who doesn't tell people he's got a girlfriend? Seriously... who does that? That just sucks.
I know when you love someone it seems like you'll never love anyone else in your life - but thats just not necessarily true. Remember that you deserve to be treated well and with respect. There should be absolutely no question about his loyalty - and if there is - you should get out now. You can find someone better.
... and don't pull the whole "I'm going to keep dating him because my parents don't want me to."
Just do the math: Tells his friends he doesn't have a girlfriend + heard he was cheating on you = taking advantage of your feelings for him (and is probably cheating on you).
9 times out of 10, if it seems like a guy is being an untrustworthy asshole.... its because he IS an untrustworthy asshole.
2007-01-17 10:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by SlickNick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy does not sound too trust worthy to me, first the cheating rumor, then denying that you are his girlfriend. Well here is the thing you don't need him honestly if he is going to lie and deny stuff. Maybe your parents know something about him, and don't want to tell you because they don't want to hurt you. It kind of hard to say what his friends know and don't know without wrongfully accussing them of anything. I think you should talk to him and find out what his story is , if he can't look at you or give you a decent answer then you know something is up, if you know how to get up with at least one of his friends then talk to them and find out about the cheating rumor that you heard and if they can verify it ( Proof), which can come from a letter,other people, or it is been seen by witnesses, then you know it is true, if they tell you it is just a rumor and don't give any justification to this then there is something wrong there and they could be lying. It is obvious a guy is not going to tell you everything unless you have known them long enough or you get it out of them. There is is a chance he could be messing with his friends heads and that case is not good because if they are any kind of friends they will see through it and tell him that they know better if not then they are just as hard headed as he is. You are already doubting the fact that things might not work out. So your decision is to work it out or move on, dwelling on this won't make it any easier. You just have to face the facts and do what you have to.
2007-01-17 10:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh he sounds like a total asshole. Get rid of this loser, he denies that he's with you! what's that about, he obviously doesn't give a sh*t about you and is using you. He's ashamed to tell his friends he's with you? um HELLO!! what are you not seeing here? I know this sounds harsh but honestly, read what you just wrote, what would you tell your best friend if she was with a guy who treated her like that. Wake up, lose this ******** and find a real man.
2007-01-17 10:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm what does it take a boulder to hit you upside the head to knock some sense into you? If hes not acknowledging your his girlfriend that's enough . Dump him and get on with your life! I'm a male and proud to say when someone I love is my girlfriend!
2007-01-17 10:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're going through a lot of trouble for a guy that obviously doesn't appreciate it or you. Dump him and find someone better that will appreciate you.
2007-01-17 10:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waste of time. Get some self respect and move on.
2007-01-17 10:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't the fact he is denying he even has a gf telling you something?
2007-01-17 10:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its time to get another boyfriend.
2007-01-17 10:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think since you can't see him. You guys are no longer together.
2007-01-17 10:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mia l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋