2007-01-17 02:31:40 · 17 answers · asked by Laralyn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he has been that wonderful, you owe him the truth,. It can be done nicely, you don't have to be mean to get your point across.
You just let him know that you are not romantically interested and would rather remain only as friends.
That is it, don't fluff it up or lie. he needs to hear the truth so he can continue on.
2007-01-17 02:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Tell him that you don't feel the spark about him that you thought you would.
Try to avoid the "let's just be friends" - it's not gentle and deep down it p*sses them off. I've used the "I would like to consider you a friend, but if you feel otherwise I understand." It puts the ball in their court and gives them a little power over the conversation even though they're being dumped.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-17 02:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by redslippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't really want to reject him. You just want to make sure he knows you cannot be more than friends. I wouldn't go out of my way to push the point, esp since you've said he has been "wonderful". But if he starts asking and/or hinting about something more serious between you ... just make sure you're clear that you're not going there. Good luck.
2007-01-17 02:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be totally honest while being very kind(hmm..)
I think(as a man) if you want to stay in touch make it obvious beyond doubt that you mean it,and its not just a phrase youre using. Tell them why you like them and just how theyve helped you and been kind and thoughtful to you.
If its to turn them down(rather than a break up) DONT say "I value our friendship too much" just say you really think theyre great but not in that way.
Or if youre one mf my ex's -just run away,over the hills
2007-01-17 02:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by divisions_weaken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? I'm being totally serious. It really comes down to him being too nice to you. How he screwed up: he didn't set personal boundaries, he became your doormat, and now you don't respect him because he's not a challenge.
Just dump him and tell him it's because he did everything you wanted because that sounds like the truth.
He needs to learn to stand up for what he wants and to be a confident, challenging male. Sounds like he has the rest of it down.
2007-01-17 02:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why if he is great keep him
I know that people like the whole bunch of the heart wants what it wants, but really the head should make your decions,
if not just say this is not working, and try setting him up with a buddie of yours
2007-01-17 02:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, firm and straightforward with the man. He'll appreciate it and think more of you although it may be painful to hear. Consider the fact that you'd want someone to shoot straight with you. Tell him you respect him too much to mislead him and don't waiver on your decisions.
2007-01-17 02:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't state what kind of interaction.Physical,platonic or emotional? Either way,honesty is best policy.Always is.Although you may see him very upset when you reject him just remember the longer you leave it the more upset he'll be
2007-01-17 02:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you value your friendship. getting serious would most likely ruin the beauty you two share. If he is as wonderful as you say and a good friend, he would respect that.
2007-01-17 02:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jack P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys always finish last. Why would you want to reject the person who makes you feel special?
2007-01-17 02:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋