2007-01-17 02:26:54 · 28 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Culture differences, guys...
I didn't know there were culture groups like ours where families can be more conservative; Since it seems you come from a conservative family, i'm sure your mom only wants what's best for you...she knows you more than us...trust her, not us! Can't say you're old enough cause i don't want to judge your age...;-)
Oh and just make sure you both have same definition of DATING...
2007-01-17 02:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Beanie.beanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you turn 18, she legally has no say over what you do. If she is controlling your life, then it is YOUR problem. You are too dependent on her. You are letting her take advantage of you. You need to cut the strings and develop more independence. If you are 18 or more and live with her, move out. Start your own life. Make your own friends. Stay in contact with your mom and be a good daughter, but be an adult and live your own life! If you are incapable of doing this, see a therapist to help you work through your insecurity and dependence issues. Not dating until you are 25 is unreasonable and illogical. If it is 25 now, then it'll be 30 and 40 until you've lived your whole life for her, and not for yourself.
If you are just a teen, however, then I wouldn't worry about it. Moms sometimes say stuff like that, and they do not necessarily mean it. Just make sure you develop your ability to be independent when you become an adult! Be smart. Be responsible. Make wise and well thought out decisions in your life. Then you will be fine. Good luck!
2007-01-17 10:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly can your mom stop you from dating for that long? How old are you now? My parents told me I wouldn't be able to date until that age too, but I had a boyfriend since I was 15 and they just had to deal with it. They got over it and just didn't care to be honest. They might say that to you now, but once you're like 18 your in control of your own life. My cousins mom is the same way and my cousin is 26. Her mom is not allowing her to date at all, but she has had a boyfriend for awhile now. Her parents know about it and they can't do anything about it. It's your life you can't honestly let your parents make that decision for you when you're 25 years old.
2007-01-17 10:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell my daughter thiss all the time ( shes 4) I would think you would be out of the house by this time anyway. Being a little bit older is actually not such a bad thing. I understand 25 is a bit extreme I am sure she will get over this. But really do not worry about rushing into dating.
2007-01-17 10:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by peeps 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. But if you can get a part time job and start making a life for yourself. I would eventually move out and pay my own rent then you could date who ever you want but you might be over 20 when you are able to do this financially or you could go to uni and live on campus.
But seriously, your mum sounds like she worries about you. I have a 22 year old daughter and she started dating when she was 15. I couldn't stop her and she ran away from home now she's paying for it now.
She lives with me and she has to go back to school because she missed all her education and has to start over again.
So be smart and listen to your Mum. (:-)
2007-01-17 10:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by redrose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember it's your life, we tend to do what we are told, not what we want and in the end it just makes YOU unhappy. It is YOUR life, YOUR body. Now, you could have a talk with her about why she feels that way. I think when we are younger we are still forming, still getting experiences and often we make mistakes so she's probably scared that you are not mature enough yet and risk getting pregnant or stds until you are. Of course, WE don't think we are too young but when you get older and you see how much you have learned and changed you realize they were right, you were too young to make the best decisions, you just don't know it yet. You know how you have clothes that you don't like anymore but when you got them you liked them? Well, that's what happens to us, we change our tastes, our goals. She's trying to protect you. You might consider dating without having sex so you at least get those social experiences but are still protecting yourself. I'm 38 and I got married when I was 20. My parents told me I was too young and I didn't listen. I WAS too young. I ended up getting divorced.
2007-01-17 10:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can starting dating anyone as soon as you're 18. But of course if you are still living at home, you're mom won't be so happy.
2007-01-17 10:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date anyway ,you're legal. If you live at home, then move out because you have to respect her rules, even if she is being unreasonable. I'm sure she's trying to protect you, but live and learn, otherwise you'll sink in life's ocean! (I do think that the older you are when you get married, the better.)
2007-01-17 10:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Pattie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you still be at home at 25?
2007-01-17 10:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ben Aqui 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out when you're 18!
2007-01-17 10:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋